Esta mañana me desperté con pesadillas sobre lo que Allan Alexander Amador Crevantes me hizo durante años. Mentiras, manipulación psicológica, abusos sexuales, traición a mi confianza, descubrir que es un gigoló, un embaucador, un narcisista. – Superviviente del abuso de Allan
The Anatomy of Weaponized Love
Weaponized love is not gender-specific, though it often follows patriarchal scripts.
It operates by exploiting our most sacred human need: to belong.
It sounds like this (actual text messages from Allan in 2024):
The messages all look like a normal love affair, right?
The author, Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes, was intimately involved with another woman at the time he sent these messages. Additionally, at this time, he was leading a third elderly woman to believe she was his love interest. And also inviting two other elderly woman on dates.
Weaponized attachment mirrors narcissistic abuse cycles (idealize-devalue-discard).
This is why it is important to view domestic violence in context. As stand alone messages, there is no alarm in an established trusting relationship. In context, we see a psychopathology and serious harm to the target.
The next step follows the typical abuse cycle and involves devaluation and discard. See Pattern Evidence & Case Study for live example.
Men’s sexual violence against women often stems from a fragile masculine identity that equates dominance with worth. When a man feels powerless in broader life—economically, socially, or emotionally—he may compulsively assert control over a woman via abuse tactics to reclaim the sensation of potency. Rape becomes a desperate ritual to prove “I am not the one who can be penetrated, violated, or reduced”; in other words, the terror of being dominated himself is displaced onto her. The erect phallus weaponizes the very vulnerability he refuses to feel.
This dynamic reveals a hidden homoerotic panic at the core of patriarchal violence: the male perpetrator unconsciously fears that without absolute supremacy over women, he risks occupying the “feminized” position of the dominated. Sexual violation is therefore less about desire for the woman than about terror of becoming her—of being entered, owned, or erased. By violating her boundaries, he symbolically castrates his own dread of submission, yet the act only deepens the cycle of shame and compensatory brutality. True liberation for men lies not in dominating others, but in tolerating the vulnerability that dominance was meant to obliterate.
Sigmund Freud’s psychoanalytic framework links sexual violence to unresolved Oedipal conflicts and primal aggression. In Totem and Taboo (1913), he posits that patriarchal societies originate from sons’ murderous rivalry with the father, culminating in guilt-driven totemism. Applied to rape, the perpetrator reenacts this parricide symbolically: violating a woman displaces castrating anxiety onto her, warding off the father’s imagined retribution.
Traditional masculinity bundles three pillars: protector (solves threats), provider (secures resources), and stoic enforcer (controls emotional space). Allan’s claims target all three: He claims he was enlisted to help with an ex-husband (he wasn’t); he claims he was in a position to support a woman (he wasn’t); and he claims he maintained dominance through silence (abuse, see Weaponizing Silence).
When the three pillars of masculinity are falsified, as Allan did, the performance signals insecure masculinity—a man borrowing cultural scripts he hasn’t earned. This often stems from anxious attachment or narcissistic fragility: the louder the boast, the deeper the deficit. See Pattern Evidence & Case Record for further details.
Escalation risk: Men who overclaim competence retaliate when exposed. Silence-withdrawal fails → expect blame-shifting, gaslighting, or aggressive reassertion, such as you see in his claims.
Mexico Cultural Lens: Machismo scripts amplify provider/enforcer roles. A man failing both yet still performing them, as he does in his claims, may signal economic insecurity disguised as dominance—common in contexts where emotional safety nets are weak, which we see in his use of family and friends to bolster his claims of hatred toward the truth-teller.
Falsified claims don’t just reveal Allan’s weakness—they expose a strategic identity built on his vulnerabilities. Treat it as a red flag for manipulation, not a masculinity to rehabilitate.
Disengage early.
Men drawn to female domination—embodied in maternal archetypes—bear scars from enforced stoicism: “man up” edicts, assuming the absent father’s protector role, and filling voids from his sexual or literal disappearance. They crave domination because vulnerability was forbidden; strength became their cage.
Gendered violence, long a patriarchal cudgel, inverts into radical subversion when power imbalances—income, wealth, age, opportunity—tilt decisively toward the dominatrix.
She is in control now, not him.
Idealization and devaluation form the oscillating core of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), manifesting as “splitting”—a primitive defense where the other is all-good or all-bad. In NPD, idealization serves self-aggrandizement: the partner is “love-bombed” with excessive praise and mirroring to secure narcissistic supply, creating an addictive pedestal. The narcissist flips from intense expressions of love to devaluation, weaponizing contempt, silence, and attachment to gain superiority, as these tactics inherently destabilize his victim by causing oxytocin and dopamine withdrawal symptoms, fostering dependency.
Devaluation erupts abruptly: ghosting enforces erasure, lying distorts reality (gaslighting). In NPD, the pivot often stems from narcissistic injury.
This swing is not mere moodiness but a structural fracture in self-cohesion. Narcissist then point to the victim as “unstable” and assert himself as the more stable, knowing partner. Unbeknownst to most narcississt, however, is that power and control experts transparently understand this play and it is well documented in scholarly archives.
Strategically, recognize the pattern early: love-bombing lacks mutuality, devaluation lacks proportionality.
Allan Amador Cervantes claims she told him “since I refuse to talk to her, I was going to suffer the consequences.”
The full response to Allan’s character abusive text message, shown below, can be found at Pattern Evidence & Case Record.
Delineation:
Allan does not talk about harm done to her.
Allan talks about harm that could be done to him.
That tells you his primary mental focus is personal threat, not guilt or empathy.
In his frame:
His crime is not rape or abandonment.
His crime is not giving her continued access or attention.
This is a narcissistic reframing:
“Her pain is not real. My pain is the real pain, caused by her.”
Not emerging from his own choices.
Not emerging from the original wrongdoing.
It is “done to him.”
That is a self-victim narrative.
It removes agency.
It removes accountability.
A. Allan feels persecuted
B. Allan cannot imagine her as a legitimate victim
C. Allan interprets exposure as “suffering” imposed on him
This is the inversion move.
Allan cannot conceptualize that the consequences he fears flow from his own behavior (rape, deception, lying, triangulation).
His mind must externalize suffering as something a woman is doing to him.
This is textbook identity-preservation.
If Allan admits “I harmed someone,” his identity collapses.
So he narrates: “She wants to make me suffer.”
Because psychologically, that is the only version he can survive.
Full analysis of Allan’s text message here.
Where is the virility?
Strength in men has never been only about muscle. Strength has always included responsibility, protection, and the instinct to shield women and children from harm. Historically, men were raised to take serious leadership roles inside the family. They were raised to defend, to provide, and to stand between danger and the people they love. A real man protects women because this is the core role of masculine energy at its best.
Today, many men are physically weak, emotionally passive, and sexually confused. One major piece of this problem is low testosterone. This is a global epidemic. Testosterone is not simply a hormone for sex. Testosterone is a biological driver of ambition, energy, responsibility, productivity, courage, and protection. When testosterone drops, a man’s drive drops. A man who is supposed to protect becomes a man who avoids responsibility.
Real men protect women, not exploit them.
Allan alleges they want HIS financial support! Allan’s claim reflects an absurd view of reality, radically misaligned with the evidence he himself presents.
The truth speaks: Allan prostitutes himself to elderly American women. The motive is clear.
Poverty is not funny. Poverty in places like La Paz is heartbreaking. Many people in La Paz told me the truth: opportunity is extremely small. People work hard, for very low pay, and most will never escape their situation. When we see a poor Mexican man, age 44, romantically chasing women 30 or 35 years older, this behavior does not come from love. It comes from desperation, and lack of opportunity.
However, the problem becomes serious when deception begins. Men like Allan do not show the truth. Allan posts images standing next to someone else’s car or home. Allan speaks in vague language to make the public think he is some swag dude traveling the world. Allan hides the fact that his lifestyle is not his own, but that of an older woman. His entire online image is a false identity, down to the strong arm emoji.
Allan is not harmless. Allan is a fraud. Allan and men like him are not asking for charity. They are creating a false self in order to trap a woman with more resources. They want a green card, housing, money, or a way out.
He contributes a little in the beginning until his credit card maxes out. Then the woman pays the cost. Allan hopes to gain freedom.
Women must recognize this pattern and protect themselves. The danger is not only financial loss. The danger is the emotional impact of deeply intimate deception.
In the image below, we have Allan’s social media posts at Pamela Sue Martin’s ranch. And without a touch of editing, we present his true home, his true view.
The disparity between his real life and the life he presents and is chasing is surreal.
Fraud is the act of gaining benefit by lying.
When a man, such as Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes, lies to a woman to get sex, money, housing, travel, or immigration advantage, he is committing fraud. He is gaining valuable things from her under false terms. He is presenting himself as something he is not. He promises things, including love, he never intends to give. This is not “playing around.” This is not romance. This is not misunderstanding. This is deliberate deception for personal gain.
Fraud in business is punished. Fraud in banking is punished. Fraud in government documents is punished. Yet when fraud happens in intimate relationships, people tend to ignore the financial and emotional loss. They call it “bad breakup.” They call it “dating mistake.” But it is the same category of harm. A woman gives time, money, gifts, care, and sex based on false information. He receives profit. She receives loss. That is the definition of fraud.
Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes is a fraud.
Calling it “love” does not make it less criminal. Calling it “relationship issues” does not make it less serious. Women are targeted every day by men like Allan who want financial access without effort.
Allan grooms victims with fake romance. Allan manipulates women to give resources they would never give if they knew the truth.
This is fraud, and society needs to treat it as fraud, because it steals from women in every dimension of their lives.
Men who obtain sex through lies or false stories are committing a violent act that harms the whole person. When a woman gives consent based on false information, the consent is not real. Her body is being used under false conditions. Her mind is being tricked. Her emotions are being exploited. This is not a mutual choice. This is a violation of her right to decide based on truth.
Sexual consent requires honest information. When a man hides his intentions, hides major facts, or manipulates a woman with false claims of love, marriage, or loyalty, he steals her ability to choose. He forces her to participate in a sexual act she never would have chosen if she had known the truth. Her body is not the only thing that suffers. Her trust, her self belief, and her sense of safety suffer as well.
This is rape of the soul, body, and mind. It may not look violent on the surface. But the internal damage is deep. Women who have been deceived in this way often feel confusion, self doubt, shame, and grief. They feel invaded, not only physically, but psychologically. When sex is gained through deception, it destroys the foundation of human intimacy. It is a crime against the most private parts of a human being.
One woman’s story of being tricked into sexual relations with Allan: You Raped Me, Allan.
Authored by the Allan Cervantes Survivor Support Group
No longer hiding his violence in plain sight, Allan finally admits one truth: He is violent toward women.
“She started writing a blog against me because she told me that since I refuse to talk to her, I was going to suffer the consequences.” — Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes
Real evidence be damned! Allan broadcasted his belief that silence is his power, his weapon and it matches the forensic psychological prediction: Abandonment a Weapon.
If it’s not immediately to you how or why this statement, independent of other statements, is a confession of violence in an intimate relationship, don’t hesitate to let the Allan Cervantes Survivor Support Team know. We’ll be happy to show you the codes.
Coercive control is violent. A common coercive control tactic is the weaponization of silence to exploit, control, and destabilize women. Violence against women.
Suggested further reading below…What do you think? Was Allan threatened with consequences for his weaponization of silence?
Allan is violent toward women. We thank him for moving toward truth rather than continuing to hide behind false personas on social media.
His victim, who we have reason to believe is the one mentioned in the featured text message, states that she has not attempted to enter into dialogue or conversational engagement with him since the day he committed an undeniable act of violence against her February 27, 2025 — eight full months before he authored the above confessional.
Protagonist’s name changed for her safety
During the Covid pandemic, Sophie—a divorced mother with disabilities, 16 years older than Allan—moved from California to La Paz. She sought relief from lockdowns, rehabilitation through swimming the Sea of Cortez, and opportunities to volunteer for social causes.
Facebook suggested Allan as a connection. His public profile presented him as a university rector and community figure. Sophie reached out, believing he could direct her toward volunteer opportunities. From the beginning, her intention was clear: service to the community, not romance.
But Allan’s response was not professional. By their second meeting, he invaded her personal space, he followed her home without consent, and he lied about where he lived. Sophie rejected him, but Allan pressed forward, promising introductions to volunteer opportunities. Soon he was swimming beside her, camping with her, dining with her.
For nine months, Allan concealed the truth about his living situation. He claimed to own a house being remodeled, managed by his brother, Christopher. In reality, he owns no property and he lives in his mother’s attic. When exposed, he said Sophie could not visit him at his mother’s house because his mother dislikes visitors. Witnesses confirm those excuses are false. Years later, having forgotten his lie, Allan also inadvertently confirmed this is false.
The deception served a purpose: to mask his poverty and to position Sophie’s luxury penthouse as a free lover’s pad.
This pattern continued. Allan feigned wealth, spoke of his substantial savings and investments, but let Sophie pay for dinners, hotels, and travel. When inside her penthouse overlooking the Mogote, he acted like a kept man—giving orders to staff, sweeping floors, lingering on the sofa, and “forgetting” personal items when he left so he would have to return. He offered love without action, commitment without cost. Un gigoló.
The financial imbalance grew clearer when Allan visited Sophie in California. He spoke of building a life together but expected her to fund it. He promised love and fidelity. Instead, he cultivated simultaneous relationships with other women, concealing them through lies: “I lost my phone,” “I am busy with politics,” “there’s no reception in Todos Santos,” “Kenno is sick.” He disappeared for weekends and holidays using his family as alibis while reassuring Sophie of his love.
When Sophie asked him before moving permanently to La Paz—risking her career, finances, and leaving family behind—he swore:
“I absolutely want you here with me.”
She drove a thousand miles across the desert on that promise, investing thousands of dollars, only to arrive to chaos. Allan was already entangled with Jody Waterman, conducting a public, sexually charged online relationship. He was secretly pursuing Pamela Sue Martin in Todos Santos and Idaho. And he was chasing pussy of all ages and nationalities, including a minor, all while keeping Sophie as his sexual doormat and financial safety net.
Suddenly, in summer 2023, Allan claimed his “rich cousin in Washington” had paid his first class expenses to Washington to help his cousin’s child.
I want to reiterate: Allan used not just this child in his lies, but also his minor nephews on other occasions.
In reality, this “rich cousin” was Pamela Sue Martin, thirty years his senior. Allan raved about her wealth and how “he” was paying for everything: dinners, flights, and all other travel expenses. The elaborate lie revealed the indisputable Mexican-gigolo strategy:
Allan targets older, wealthier women, using deceit to gain sexual access and financial benefits.
Allan’s deceit-for-sex career carries a critical legal implication: Idaho’s rape laws provide for prosectution for Artifice, Pretense, or Concealment and California law provides similar protections.
Family Complicity
Allan did not act alone. His family enables him. His mother knew he was traveling to various US states to spend time with different wealthy women old enough to be his mother.
Maria Elena cannot claim ignorance of his motives. Allan’s own words implicate his brother Christopher and sister-in-law Fernanda, who chauffeured him to airports. Allan further confided that Fernanda coached him on how to build trust and intimacy with these women.
The deception was not hidden from family; it was facilitated.
Family must consider their their own position, their own family standing, and draw a clear line between Allan’s disgrace and their households:
Allan lied for sex. He lied for money. He lied when truth would have served him better.
The lies multiplied beyond what one interview can contain. Sophie became ill under the weight of Allan’s chaos. She told him she was breaking down. Instead of easing the harm, Allan escalated it—feigning empathy while deepening betrayal. She left La Paz six months later, burdened with all the costs of migration, relocation, and remigration, while Allan continued to whisper promises: “I love you more than you know. I am coming soon to be with you. Kenno is sick.”
Kenno, Allan’s brother, was indeed sick. But Allan’s cruelty had nothing to do with that reality. Kenno was simply another alibi to cloak Allan’s relationships with other women.
In the end, Sophie received a single message that opened the floodgates of truth.
The pattern is undeniable: Allan lied for sex, lied for money, lied when truth would have served him better. His deceit is not incidental—it is pathological.
And his family stands by him, complicit in the harm.
In the below image, a young lady rightfully feels compelled to threaten Allan with violence for his ongoing inappropriate contact with her…three months after he told her mother he loved her…in a text message…one day after Allan was photographed in bed with Sophie.
Having trouble keeping track of Allan’s poor personal boundaries? There’s plenty more to see if you care to vomit.
“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” Ephesians 4:25 (NIV)
More abuser tactics for the narcissistic:
When one supply source threatens exposure, run to the other supply source and secure it.
She is the most vulnerable to the exact deception pattern outlined in Allan’s psychological profile.
Allan is actively bonding tighter to prevent losing her. She is in the jurisdiction where his deceptive sexual behavior is criminal. Silence protects him, not her.
He will repeat the same abuse cycle until she learns the truth and/or she is harmed.
“Patterns suggest efforts calculated to maintain influence, risking destabilization of romantic partners.”
Beware of the Mexican Gigalo
Behind the social media posts, Allan is insecure and guarded.
His motive is to project momentum—to suggest that he is travelling, evolving, and succeeding. It’s a performative play, meant to contrast with stagnation or guilt. The overall messaging signals loneliness and a need to manage impressions carefully. What appears as openness online masks an emotionally sealed inner world.
Allan’s social media strategy is to establish trust and loyalty. He wishes to appear dependable and admired: “I am fine and stable.” The effect he seeks is reassurance from others that he is a good, steady person.
Loss of Self-Respect
Despite the calm surface, Allan has lost dignity and self-respect. He may gain likes, but his internal sense of moral authority has weakened.
The staged images are a shell around exhaustion and reduced self-esteem. His “travel the USA” motif is not a celebration of freedom, happiness, or success but an attempt to stay ahead of inner stagnation in his mother’s decayed attic.
Constant Effort
Allan’s social media persona requires constant effort to maintain. Behind the smile and the scenic background lies:
His mother’s idolization on social media only serves to solidify her co-perpetration: she knows everything.
He keeps posting to prove momentum and control. He is fighting to preserve a few loyal supporters. He knows his authority is eroding, and this public mask is his last line of defense.
So the serenity you see on social media isn’t genuine calm or content; it’s a sustained act of resistance—a disgraceful man trying to hold his ground as the truth unveils itself.
By Guest Author & Survivor
The first time someone told me that Allan is a liar, a user, and an abuser of women, I was incensed. Outraged! Furious.
I responded to that woman with scathing rebuke.
The Second Time
The second time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I was angry. I denied it. It couldn’t be true. He is so charming and polite.
The Third Time
The third time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I paused. I asked Allan about it. The idea was ridiculous, he said. “She’s a jealous woman, she’s crazy,” he told me.
The Fourth Time
The fourth time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I investigated. I was deeply concerned by the evidence I found. I confronted him. He scoffed. I will never forget that smirk on his face.
The Fifth Time
The fifth time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I investigated again. Allan was lying to me.
The Reign of Hell Began
I confronted him. He lied. I confronted him again. He lied again. I confronted him again. He created total destruction and chaos while simultaneously kissing me, telling me he loved me, and making love to me.
I Left Him
He pursued me again. Still avoiding the truth.
I left him again.
I Forgave Him
I should not have.
I wasn’t the only one he was lying to.
I wasn’t special. I wasn’t loved. This wasn’t the “Once in a Lifetime Love” we whispered about.
I was someone he was using because he needed admiration and attention. A ticket to the USA. That’s all.
Allan Sexually Violated Me.
The lies. The lies were emotional fraud.
But bringing someone else’s sexual energies into my bed, into my womb. Without my permission. He desecrated me.
I was being used.
That’s what I live with.
Then One Day He Disappeared
No explanation.
Four Years
Four years of abuse cycles:
Shock. Chaos. Confusion.
Letter Received
Your boyfriend is sleeping with another woman. Here’s proof.
I could have Handled the Truth
“I don’t love you, I don’t want to be with you” would have been good enough for me. I could have walked away years sooner with dignity. With my sacred womb in tact.
Living with Anger
Now. I am angry at myself for overlooking the obvious.
Angry at myself for forgiving him.
Angry at myself for trusting his words when he said, “I want you here with me.”
Angry at myself for not realizing it was all about the money and the USA. It wasn’t about me.
I make no apologies for shining light on this truth.
I Hope No One Else Gets Hurt
His public persona is a fascinating study in the art of deception.
People want to believe what they see.
Thank You God
I’m deeply grateful for your gifts.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.
Why Survivors Need Awareness
Abusers often project a public persona of strength and confidence to mask deep-seated insecurities, a behavior that becomes more pronounced under public scrutiny. This curated image—whether through charm, dominance, or displays of control—serves as a shield to hide vulnerabilities. In private, their insecurity may manifest as manipulation or aggression to maintain power over others, but in public, they double down on this “strong & happy” facade to deflect criticism or exposure. This dynamic is rooted in their fear of being seen as inadequate, driving them to craft an image that demands admiration rather than authenticity.
“Va a mi gym y se clava mirando a las morras como si fuera deporte. La neta, cómo nos echa ojo está bien creepy. Le decimos de broma ‘el galán’, pero la verdad nos da mala vibra, entonces tratamos de andar en bola cuando está por ahí. No es normal.” –Afectada
The intensification of this behavior under scrutiny often stems from an abuser’s need to maintain control over their narrative. When challenged or exposed, their insecurity fuels defensive tactics like exaggerated displays of confidence to preserve their carefully constructed persona. For example, an abuser might respond to criticism with grandiose boasts or public displays of authority to reassert dominance and suppress doubts about their character. This pattern not only protects their fragile self-image but also manipulates how others perceive them, making it harder for their abusive behavior to be recognized or addressed.
Abuse survivors must understand this behavior to recognize the disconnect between an abuser’s public image and their private actions. Awareness empowers survivors to break free from the manipulation, rebuild trust in their own perceptions, and seek support without being swayed by the abuser’s carefully crafted persona. By understanding this dynamic, survivors can better navigate their healing journey and protect themselves from further harm.
Awkward attempts at public displays of normalcy or success
Each new “I’m strong” post looks like damage control. The more he fights to maintain control of his image, the more the performance exposes his weakness.
He has no real path to recover his image without confronting the truth — and he won’t. Particularly as he surrounds himself with enablers rather than those who help him accept responsibility and transform for the betterment of self, his victims, and his community.
See Educación for more information in Spanish.
For Survivors
We know the journey from shock to denial to realization to anger to recovery. If you need support along your journey, we are committed to protecting your identity. Reach out to us by email.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.
In every public case of abuse, there is at least one figure in the shadows — the enabler. She is not the headline. She is not the accused. Yet she advises him when to fight, when to hide, when to smile for the cameras.
From years of survivor advocacy, we know these “strategic advisors” often believe they are helping. In truth, they become part of the cycle that keeps abuse unchallenged.
They aim to help act as strategic advisors line-by-line. Sometimes they carry their own unresolved history — bitterness toward another woman, misguided loyalty, co-dependence, or the deep need to feel indispensable to a man in crisis.
More concerning, however, is the lack of qualifications in this highly specialized arena and lack of insight into deeply buried, carefully guarded savage secrets.
Yet simultaneously, without specialized qualifications and without the knowledge she needs to make informed decisions, she is called upon to advise, colsole, co-analyze, and defend. She is an enabler enabling a pathological abuser who cannot be satiated in a tormented intergenerational web of pursue-catch-conquer-discard. Viewing them all–the young, the elderly, the disabled–as Satan’s offering to him. Shrouded in family complicity.
While hundreds of enabler variations exist, the abuser’s enabler normally, though exceptions exists, fall into one of five common traits, which we highlight in the image below.
We encourage those in this position to ask themselves:
Silence is not neutral. Support is not harmless. And the “loyal helper” is never truly invisible.
See “Educación” for a Spanish summary on enablers and their role in perpetuating harm.
For Survivors
We know the journey from shock to denial to realization to anger to recovery. If you need support along your journey, we are committed to protecting your identity. Reach out to us by email.
For Enablers
If you recognize yourself in these patterns, the most powerful thing you can do is step away, privately and permanently. You cannot save him without sacrificing your own integrity — and history remembers both the abuser and the one who stood beside him. Contact our Survivor Support Team if you need help.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.
When public image is under threat, abusive personalities often pivot into “wholesome overload” — flooding social media with symbols of innocence, purity, and moral authority. Pets. Bible verses. Family rhetoric.
This is not harmless. It is calculated. The performance says, “Trust me. I am gentle, safe, and righteous.” Meanwhile, the masked persona remains unchanged — sometimes existing in plain sight on other platforms.
Kittens to Kinks
This week offered a textbook example: one account displaying images crafted to inspire trust; another filled with connections to female sexual objectification. This contrast is not accidental. Contradiction is the strategy. It keeps victims doubting their own instincts, asking themselves, “Could someone so kind really be harmful?”
Two platforms. Two stories. One truth.
We love adorable black kittens as much as anyone else. While we strongly encourage pets as a way to experience love, we are just as strongly concerned that carefully curated public imagery is an extension of the double-life playbook: Soft fur in public, hard-core in private.
If Allan has a new kitten, we wish he and the kitten all the best. But we fear the animal could be used as a prop in efforts to curate a more likable public image.
Violence in Mexico
Survivors deserve truth, safety, and dignity. If you have experienced emotional, spiritual, or relational abuse, our Survivor Support Team is here to listen, believe you, and connect you with resources to rebuild your life. Contact us in complete confidentiality.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.
Woman is a gift of life, unity, and shared dominion.
Across history, Scripture has drawn a clear line between what God gives and what the forces of destruction seek to consume.
In Genesis 2:22, the phrase “he brought her to the man” implies a divine act of presentation — woman as a gift of life, unity, and shared dominion. In Revelation 12:4, the Beast stands before the woman, ready to devour what she brings forth.
“The beast I saw resembled a leopard, but had feet like those of a bear and a mouth like that of a lion. The dragon gave the beast his power and his throne and great authority.” — Revelation 13:2
What God gives as a gift, the Beast seeks to destroy.
Patterns of Abuse
Patterns of emotional and psychological abuse are clear and consistent:
When a man convinces a woman to trust him, to love him, to be with him and then abuses her, the pattern moves beyond imitation of evil into embodiment of it.
Such men stand condemned in the eyes of God, for they wage war against His creation, His image-bearers, and His gift to man.
Violence against women Mexico
Case Study: La Paz, Baja California Sur
One recent example in La Paz shows how this pattern manifests in real life. Multiple survivors, across years, describe the same sequence of behaviors.
Tactic One: Triangulation
Triangulation is when an abuser uses a third party to provoke jealousy or competition, destabilizing the relationship and asserting control.
Example:
Survivors report that Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes used Jody Waterman as an instrument of triangulation to devalue his partner, [redacted].
As his defense, he mocked Jody as “crazy” for her “mysterious” obsession with him — even ridiculing her for purchasing the same book (How to Love) that his girlfriend, [redacted], had gifted him.
“He was calling Jody crazy and I was thinking maybe she is crazy. But something inside of me kept thinking he is responsible for her craziness because no woman idealizes a man like that without significant encouragement. These public posts must be just the tip of the iceberg.” — [redacted]
Tactic Two: Gaslighting
Gaslighting is the deliberate distortion of reality to make the victim question their own perceptions, often accompanied by shaming language.
Example:
When confronted, Allan erupted into a torrent of gaslighting — even calling [redacted] a “teenager” for questioning his and Jody’s public messages on Facebook. This occurred just three months after he encouraged [redacted] to move to La Paz at her expense, while simultaneously pursuing multiple other women, at least one Idaho woman who clearly believed Allan was her loyal partner at the time.
Tactic Three: Labeling
Abusers often neutralize credibility by attaching derogatory labels to those who confront them.
Example:
Allan labels Jody “crazy.” Pamela is “insanely jealous.” He dismissed [redacted] as “disrespecting his space” and “trespassing boundaries” when she confronted his triangulation.
No empathy. No Accountability. No remorse.
I had just driven an exhausting thousand miles through the desert to be with him – at his request – only to face this chaos when I arrived.”
— [redacted]
Tactic Four: Public–Private Contradiction
This is the “mask” — public morality and virtue-signaling that conceals private exploitation.
Allan’s posts about Christian virtue, cute kittens, travel to beautiful places, and family values serve as intentional public distractions from his private reality.
In present-day Mexico — where violence against women is layered, nuanced, and multidimensional — these patterns are part of a continuum of harm that too often ends in femicide.
Why Silence is Deadly
Silence and shame cause even the strongest women to collapse — and when a woman collapses, so do her children’s futures.
“Cry aloud, spare not, lift up thy voice like a trumpet, and show my people their transgression.” — Isaiah 58:1
To remain silent is to hand the Beast our souls.
Speaking Protects the Next Victim
If you have experienced emotional, spiritual, or relational abuse, our Survivor Support Team is here to listen, believe you, and connect you with resources in full confidentiality.
Truth is the first act of protection.
These are not “private issues.” They are part of the continuum of harm that ends in femicide. We cannot remain silent.
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Is La Paz, Mexico safe
By Anonymous Survivor
In the holy book of Revelation, “the Beast” is a satanic instrument of chaos, deception, and destruction, seeking to dominate and devastate humanity on a global scale.
La Paz, BCS Mexico
Today, we learned through evidence that, in addition to exploiting elderly women, Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes pursued a mother and her daughter just two weeks apart, while emotionally defrauding and bedding other women during the same two-week period. THE MARK OF THE BEAST.
Evidence shows: Allan love bombs, gaslights, emotionally defrauds, triangulates, and discards women as if they are Satan’s whores instead of God’s sacred gifts.
Allan is not simply a prolific abuser camouflaging himself behind a carefully curated mask of Christian morality and patriarchal virtue.
Allan is not a sinner in need of redemption.
Allan is an active, irredeemable enemy of God.
“The Beast was given power to wage war against God’s holy people and to conquer them.”
Revelation 13:7 (NIV)
The women Allan abused are honorable women. Loyal servants of God. Most are mothers who carried heavy crosses to not only survive, but ensure her children thrived against all odds. Many are elderly (30+ years his senior). Some without fathers or brothers to protect them. Open, vulnerable hearts. Perfect targets.
I vomitted as I penned this post to relieve my throat of choking agony. Viewing evidence of the Beast’s spiritual warfare against a mother and her daughter was a bigger lump than I could swallow. My body had to expel the shock and horror.
God promised triumph over the Beast through testimony:
“They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.” —Revelation 12:11 (NIV)
The Beast does not prevail in his battle with God. Along with a False Prophet, he is thrown alive into the “lake of fire burning with sulfur” (Revelation 19:20), a symbol of eternal torment and final judgment. This act destroys the Beast’s physical and spiritual influence forever, without any resurrection or further opportunity to abuse God’s women like Satan’s whores.
“And I saw what looked like a sea of glass glowing with fire and, standing beside the sea, those who had been victorious over the beast and its image and over the number of its name. They held harps given them by God.”
—Revelation 15:2 (NIV)
Through direct divine judgment, Allan’s reign of terror is over. A Faithful and true leader has emerged, leading the armies of heaven. He calls upon us to use our power, the gifts He bestowed upon us, to help others see Him, His light, His glory, and to experience His faithful love.
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In the interest of accuracy and fairness, we will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.
By Anonymous Survivor
“Allan didn’t just betray me—he violated me on a level so profound, I’m questioning what counts as rape.”
He treated me inhumanly.
Watching him play the victim role only deepens my questions about his humanity.
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In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content, nor has he provided contradictory evidence. See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle
By Guest Writer
Publishing Note: This reflection documents the psychological and emotional impact of prolonged emotional abuse. Shared anonymously to protect the writer’s safety, it centers the lived reality of survivors.
I do not speak to destroy Allan. I speak because silence almost destroyed me.
Some forms of abuse leave no bruises. No hospital visits. Only a slow disintegration of self. One day, I looked in the mirror and wondered, “Who have I become?”
This is what Allan did to me.
Allan did not start by yelling or threatening. Instead, he used intimacy. A curated tenderness that masked a deep need for power and control. At first, I felt chosen. Seen. Revered. Later, I was simply erased. No longer human.
Allan courted me until I trusted him. Then he vanished. Returned. Shared private pain. Vanished again. Refused to answer phone calls and WhatsApp messages. Made excuses that never aligned with his “I love you’s.”
He offered promises. Then he didn’t bother to fulfill them. He lied so frequently and with such certainty that I began to distrust my own perception.
Every concern I voiced was turned against me. In asking for the bare minimum, I became “bad.” I asked basic questions: Do I matter to you? He responded with traumatizing contempt.
Emotional abuse works by eroding your sanity. Your sense of reality begins to diminish. You apologize. Minimize. Wait. Hope.
Meanwhile, Allan moved on to someone else—secretly, surgically, refusing me closure. I could have handled the truth, but he robbed me of the opportunity to make an informed decision by lying. When I confronted him, he simply lied again. When pressed for clarity, he created chaos that left me gobsmacked. Allan intentionally and systematically disempowered me.
I thought:
The spiral of emotional fraud nearly ended me.
Many women die in silence from emotional abuse. I almost joined them.
I wanted the pain to stop, but I was disoriented and torn between a bond Allan had carefully weaved and his abuse. Tearfully, I begged him. I told him how I felt about his lies, about his abuse. I told him what was happening to me. I was collapsing psychologically. He did not care.
I contemplated ending my life, making it appear accidental so that it would hurt my family less. I imagined a bottle of tequila and sleeping pills would end the pain Allan caused me.
Many women die in silence from emotional abuse. And I almost joined them. Emotional abuse is that violent.
But I didn’t die.
I wrote instead.
Allan may never face the consequences of his violence in court or a prison. But bringing the gravity of Allan’s conduct to light is another form of justice. The justice of truth made visible. The justice of naming the violence what it is: violence. The justice of no longer carrying the weight of his abuse alone.
Allan will not apologize. He prefers avoidance and enlisting others in a false victim narrative.
Why speak out now after years of silence?
During my period of silence, Allan hurt other vulnerable women.
Knowing that my silence paved the road for Allan to abuse another woman makes me sicker than the abuse I personally endured.
Allan’s conduct deserves heightened awareness for everyone’s benefit because silence enables more violence.
Reclaiming my power looks like this:
If you’re reading this and you ache for recognition, know this:
You’re not overreacting. You’re not imagining it. You’re not alone. You are not too much. You are not crazy. You are not to blame.
Speaking is my duty to other women, other men, and our global community.
Abusers must face consequences.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content, nor has he provided contradictory evidence. See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle
The Ripple Effect of Abuse: How One Man’s Actions Harm Women, Men, and the Community
Introduction: When a man abuses a woman, the harm reverberates far beyond the immediate victim. Abuse—emotional, psychological, or physical—fractures community trust. Consider Allan, whose repeated mistreatment of women leaves pain and fear. Each act harms the targeted woman and erodes other women’s confidence, fostering distrust of men. This tarnishes all men’s reputation, especially in Allan’s community of La Paz, Baja California Sur, México.
Allan’s behavior, learned from his father, risks passing to the next generation, perpetuating harm. This article argues that Allan’s abuse attacks the community as a whole, with consequences for women, men, and their bonds.
By addressing Allan’s actions, we aim to show that stopping abuse is essential to protecting not just women but mankind itself.
Communities thrive on trust, mutual respect, and shared expectations of safety. When a man like Allan abuses a woman, he violates these foundations. The harm is not confined to the victim; it spreads through the stories, whispers, and warnings shared among women. Each account of Allan’s cruelty—whether it’s manipulation, coercion, or violence—raises fear and suspicion among women in the community. They begin to question not only Allan but all men, wondering who else might pose a threat. This generalized distrust is a natural response to protect themselves, but it comes at a cost to the social fabric.
When Allan abuses a woman, every woman who learns of his actions is affected. The knowledge that a man in their community is capable of such harm plants a seed of doubt: if Allan can act this way, who else might? This distrust is not irrational; it is a survival mechanism rooted in the need to navigate an uncertain world.
And it creates a ripple effect that extends far beyond Allan himself: Every woman who feels this distrust is, in a sense, a secondary victim of Allan’s actions, as her sense of safety and connection is compromised.
Allan’s abuse does not only harm women; it damages the reputation of all men, particularly those in his immediate community and cultural group. In today’s world, where trust between genders is already strained by historical and ongoing inequalities, men cannot afford the damage caused by abusers like Allan. When women distrust men as a group, all men suffer the consequences: strained relationships, reduced social opportunities, and a loss of credibility. The last thing men need is someone like Allan running around, destroying their trustworthiness.
This harm is especially acute for men who share Allan’s cultural identity. For instance, if Allan is a Mexican man, his actions risk reinforcing negative stereotypes about Mexican men as a group. These stereotypes, already damaging on the global stage, do not need further fuel.
When Allan abuses a woman, it soils the reputation of Mexican men collectively, making it harder for them to be seen as trustworthy partners, colleagues, or community members. This unfair generalization places an additional burden on men who are striving to build positive relationships and contribute to their communities.
Allan’s behavior is not an isolated phenomenon; it is a learned pattern, passed down from his father and potentially to the next generation of men.
When abusive conduct goes unchecked, it becomes a model for young men, who may internalize it as acceptable or even normal. If Allan’s nephews witnesses his uncle’s mistreatment of women without consequence, they may replicate those behaviors, believing they carry no cost. This perpetuation of abuse ensures that the cycle of distrust and harm continues, affecting future women, men, and communities.
Stopping Allan’s abuse is therefore not just about protecting today’s victims but about safeguarding tomorrow’s generations.
By holding Allan accountable—through public condemnation, social consequences, or intervention—the community can disrupt this cycle and demonstrate that abuse is unacceptable. This sets a new standard for young men, showing them that respect and accountability, not harm, are the expectations of manhood.
Allan’s abuse is not merely an attack on individual women; it is an assault on mankind itself.
By sowing distrust among women, tarnishing the reputation of men, and threatening future generations, his actions undermine the trust and cooperation that human communities rely on.
Men, in particular, bear the brunt of this harm, as their collective standing is eroded by the actions of a few.
To mitigate the harm caused by Allan’s abuse, the community must act decisively. Publicly calling out his behavior—through platforms like a website—can document his actions and amplify victims’ voices. Social consequences, such as exclusion from community spaces, can signal that abuse is intolerable. Supporting victims through listening, believing, and offering resources restores their agency and rebuilds trust. Finally, interventions like counseling or legal action can address Allan’s behavior, offering a chance for change while protecting others.
These actions not only stop Allan but also send a message to the community: abuse will not be tolerated, and trust can be rebuilt.
By holding abusers accountable, the community strengthens its bonds, empowers women, and restores the reputation of men who share Allan’s identity. It also sets a precedent for future generations, breaking the cycle of learned harm.
See Profile of an Abuser for more information.
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In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content, nor has he provided contradictory evidence. See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle
Introduction: Abuse, particularly when perpetrated by an individual against multiple victims, erodes the fabric of communities. Abuse thrives in environments where silence, apathy, or misguided tolerance allow it to persist.
In the case of a single abuser—let’s call him Allan—whose prolific mistreatment of numerous women spans emotional, psychological, or physical domains, the response of the community is pivotal.
While tolerance is often praised as a virtue in diverse societies, this article contends that intolerance of abusive conduct is a moral and social imperative. By refusing to accept or normalize abuse, communities can interrupt its trajectory, hold perpetrators accountable, and foster a stronger, more cohesive social structure.
Abuse, whether verbal, emotional, psychological, or physical, is a deliberate act of harm that undermines the dignity and autonomy of its victims. When an individual like Allan repeatedly targets women, the ripple effects extend beyond individual suffering to destabilize trust within the community. Each unaddressed act of abuse signals to the perpetrator that their behavior is permissible, emboldening further misconduct. Tolerance, in this context, is not neutrality—it is complicity.
Why Intolerance is Appropriate
Intolerance of abuse is not about vengeance or mob justice; it is about asserting a community’s values and protecting its members.
Drawing on ethical frameworks, such as Kantian principles of respect for persons, tolerating abuse violates the fundamental dignity of victims by treating them as means to an end rather than ends in themselves. Intolerance, in this sense, is a moral stance that prioritizes the well-being of individuals and the community.
From a practical perspective, intolerance works by imposing social consequences. Social psychologist John Darley’s work on bystander intervention suggests that when communities actively respond to wrongdoing, they create a “normative shift” that discourages harmful behavior.
In Allan’s case, if the community openly condemns his actions—through public statements, exclusion from social spaces, or support for victims’ voices—it alters the cost-benefit calculus of his behavior. He may face reputational damage, loss of social standing, or legal consequences, all of which can deter future abuse.
Holding the Abuser Accountable
When a community tolerates Allan’s abuse, it implicitly grants him power to continue. By contrast, intolerance fosters accountability through several mechanisms:
Addressing Counterarguments
Some may argue that intolerance risks escalating conflict or unfairly targeting the accused without due process. These concerns are valid and highlight the need for responsible intolerance. Intolerance should not equate to vigilantism or unverified accusations.
Instead, it involves evidence-based accountability, such as corroborated victim testimonies or documented patterns of behavior.
Communities must balance firmness with fairness, ensuring that responses are proportionate and grounded in truth, for example, providing Allan ample time to apologize for emotional fraud, triangulation, and gaslighting before escalating matters.
Others may claim that tolerance promotes forgiveness and rehabilitation. While rehabilitation is a worthy goal, tolerating ongoing abuse enables harm rather than addressing it. Intolerance does not preclude second chances; it demands accountability as a prerequisite for peace.
Conclusion
Intolerance of abusive behavior, particularly in the case of a prolific abuser like Allan targeting multiple women, is not only appropriate but essential.
By refusing to accept abuse, communities disrupt its trajectory, hold perpetrators accountable, and strengthen their own cohesion. This approach aligns with ethical principles of justice and respect while fostering practical outcomes like deterrence and victim empowerment.
To build a community where trust and safety thrive, we must reject the silence that enables abuse. By saying “no” to Allan’s actions—through public accountability, support for victims, and clear consequences—we create a future where abuse has no place, and community bonds grow stronger in its absence.
References (Simplified for Accessibility)
General knowledge on social cohesion and abuse dynamics, drawn from contemporary discussions and movements like #MeToo.
Darley, J. M., & Latané, B. (1968). Bystander intervention in emergencies: Diffusion of responsibility. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. (Explains how communities respond to wrongdoing.)
Kant, I. (1785). Groundwork for the Metaphysics of Morals. (Discusses respect for persons as a moral principle.)
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In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content, nor has he provided contradictory evidence. See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle
Victimology in the context of psychological domestic violence, particularly involving years-long systematic gaslighting, emotional fraud, and triangulation, focuses on understanding the impact on the victim’s psyche, behavior, and lived experience.
Below, we outline the core traits, reactions, and experiences of a woman subjected to abuse, grounded in psychological patterns observed in such dynamics. The following insights are structured to be concise yet comprehensive, reflecting the complex interplay of emotional manipulation and its effects.
Reactions to the Abuse
Lived Experiences
Long-Term Impact
Notes
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In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content, nor has he provided contradictory evidence. See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle