Deep in my gut I knew.
I was being violated by a man who pretended I was the only one.
That picture shows me naked, trusting, open to him.
He entered my body pretending it was love.
Every time he made me come, he took something that wasn’t his to give.
Trust feels like acid now.
He didn’t just break my heart. He broke my sense of safety.
The damage lives in me forever because of what he did.
Abusive men use labels like crazy or mentally unstable as weapons—regardless of any professional opinion—to discredit, destabilize, and control.
Without shame, Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes uses these labels liberally and prolifically.
Allan sent these messages to me in 2024, two years into his relationship with Pamela Sue Martin. He cheated on both of us.
While all this was happening, he was pursuing three additional women.
Do not allow the perpetration of violence through your silence.
The only way the patterns of violence — idealization, devaluation, & discard — go away is through illumination.
You are not alone. Your voice is valuable. Your confidentiality is protected. You have permission to confront and protest.
No more violence.
I was terrified of speaking out. Terrified for my family, terrified for my safety. The measures I took…the people I had to speak to…the money I had to invest in safety precautions.
But I was more haunted by the silence. My silence was an unspoken contract between Allan and I…a contract that permits him to abuse other women with impunity for the rest of his life. And I considered the damage he was doing to my people, my sisters and I could not live with that.
Many men are overtly violent. Allan’s violence is insidious, nuanced, and experts argue more dangerous.
You can contact the survivor support team for help. They are not about revenge. They are about safety of the women Allan targets and will target in the future.
— Survivor of Allan’s Violence
Incidents of physical assault, Dr. Evan Stark argued, were only the most visible part of domestic abuse. Psychological violence, through tactics such as triangulation, which Allan employed for years and still employs, are a far more devastating pattern of subjugation, closer to kidnapping or slavery, that Dr. Stark called “coercive control”.
If you are involved with Allan and you are sick, confused, depressed, anxious, insecure, angry, and/or engaging in covert surveillance to “learn the truth” — there’s good reason for it.
Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes is a master manipulator. A monster.
Many psychologists are not trained to deal with the impact of this level of sociopathy. He does not care about you because he cannot care about you. Love is a facade, used as a weapon to ensnare you in a trap that helps him avoid loneliness, sexual grief, and his true financial prospects.
You need expert help to deal with this expert manipulator. Do not minimize the weight of this warning.
Do not attempt to confront Allan alone. He will explode with gaslighting rage, blaming his victims, using family and friends as “his army” to evidence his righteous stance. If you are not prepared, you will be destabilized by his reaction. This has already happened to several women.
Reach out not only for support, but for a strategic plan. And take every word on Allan’s psychological profile seriously.
Lisa was a 75-year old American grandmother who he arranged to meet at Cafe Exquisito in La Paz. When she confronted him about flirting with her, he responded that there was no reason not to—despite the multiple women who thought he loved them.
What a dick. Pendejo.
Then he has the audacity to act offended that covert operations were an absolute necessity to unveil the truth. Typical gaslilghting abuse tactic: Reverse the blame, one of Allan’s favorite violences against women.
Allan expected her to remain silent. He expected her to bear his shame. He expected what every woman before her had been conditioned to do: absorb the damage he inflicted, protect his reputation, and disappear.
He relied on secrecy as a shield and impunity as a birthright. He believed his betrayal would dissolve without consequences because it always had.
She delivered the opposite. Instead of vanishing, she publicized. Instead of carrying the shame he assigned to her, she returned it to its rightful owner. The behaviors he expected to remain hidden became permanently archived with receipts and witnesses.
Allan weaponized love; she weaponized visibility.
He relied on impunity; she deployed consequence.
Power shifts when silence meets the full force of exposure.
Protagonist’s name changed for her safety
During the Covid pandemic, Sophie—a divorced mother with disabilities, 16 years older than Allan—moved from California to La Paz. She sought relief from lockdowns, rehabilitation through swimming the Sea of Cortez, and opportunities to volunteer for social causes.
Facebook suggested Allan as a connection. His public profile presented him as a university rector and community figure. Sophie reached out, believing he could direct her toward volunteer opportunities. From the beginning, her intention was clear: service to the community, not romance.
But Allan’s response was not professional. By their second meeting, he invaded her personal space, he followed her home without consent, and he lied about where he lived. Sophie rejected him, but Allan pressed forward, promising introductions to volunteer opportunities. Soon he was swimming beside her, camping with her, dining with her.
For nine months, Allan concealed the truth about his living situation. He claimed to own a house being remodeled, managed by his brother, Christopher. In reality, he owns no property and he lives in his mother’s attic. When exposed, he said Sophie could not visit him at his mother’s house because his mother dislikes visitors. Witnesses confirm those excuses are false. Years later, having forgotten his lie, Allan also inadvertently confirmed this is false.
The deception served a purpose: to mask his poverty and to position Sophie’s luxury penthouse as a free lover’s pad.
This pattern continued. Allan feigned wealth, spoke of his substantial savings and investments, but let Sophie pay for dinners, hotels, and travel. When inside her penthouse overlooking the Mogote, he acted like a kept man—giving orders to staff, sweeping floors, lingering on the sofa, and “forgetting” personal items when he left so he would have to return. He offered love without action, commitment without cost. Un gigoló.
The financial imbalance grew clearer when Allan visited Sophie in California. He spoke of building a life together but expected her to fund it. He promised love and fidelity. Instead, he cultivated simultaneous relationships with other women, concealing them through lies: “I lost my phone,” “I am busy with politics,” “there’s no reception in Todos Santos,” “Kenno is sick.” He disappeared for weekends and holidays using his family as alibis while reassuring Sophie of his love.
When Sophie asked him before moving permanently to La Paz—risking her career, finances, and leaving family behind—he swore:
“I absolutely want you here with me.”
She drove a thousand miles across the desert on that promise, investing thousands of dollars, only to arrive to chaos. Allan was already entangled with Jody Waterman, conducting a public, sexually charged online relationship. He was secretly pursuing Pamela Sue Martin in Todos Santos and Idaho. And he was chasing pussy of all ages and nationalities, including a minor, all while keeping Sophie as his sexual doormat and financial safety net.
Suddenly, in summer 2023, Allan claimed his “rich cousin in Washington” had paid his first class expenses to Washington to help his cousin’s child.
I want to reiterate: Allan used not just this child in his lies, but also his minor nephews on other occasions.
In reality, this “rich cousin” was Pamela Sue Martin, thirty years his senior. Allan raved about her wealth and how “he” was paying for everything: dinners, flights, and all other travel expenses. The elaborate lie revealed the indisputable Mexican-gigolo strategy:
Allan targets older, wealthier women, using deceit to gain sexual access and financial benefits.
Allan’s deceit-for-sex career carries a critical legal implication: Idaho’s rape laws provide for prosectution for Artifice, Pretense, or Concealment and California law provides similar protections.
Family Complicity
Allan did not act alone. His family enables him. His mother knew he was traveling to various US states to spend time with different wealthy women old enough to be his mother.
Maria Elena cannot claim ignorance of his motives. Allan’s own words implicate his brother Christopher and sister-in-law Fernanda, who chauffeured him to airports. Allan further confided that Fernanda coached him on how to build trust and intimacy with these women.
The deception was not hidden from family; it was facilitated.
Family must consider their their own position, their own family standing, and draw a clear line between Allan’s disgrace and their households:
Allan lied for sex. He lied for money. He lied when truth would have served him better.
The lies multiplied beyond what one interview can contain. Sophie became ill under the weight of Allan’s chaos. She told him she was breaking down. Instead of easing the harm, Allan escalated it—feigning empathy while deepening betrayal. She left La Paz six months later, burdened with all the costs of migration, relocation, and remigration, while Allan continued to whisper promises: “I love you more than you know. I am coming soon to be with you. Kenno is sick.”
Kenno, Allan’s brother, was indeed sick. But Allan’s cruelty had nothing to do with that reality. Kenno was simply another alibi to cloak Allan’s relationships with other women.
In the end, Sophie received a single message that opened the floodgates of truth.
The pattern is undeniable: Allan lied for sex, lied for money, lied when truth would have served him better. His deceit is not incidental—it is pathological.
And his family stands by him, complicit in the harm.
In the below image, a young lady rightfully feels compelled to threaten Allan with violence for his ongoing inappropriate contact with her…three months after he told her mother he loved her…in a text message…one day after Allan was photographed in bed with Sophie.
Having trouble keeping track of Allan’s poor personal boundaries? There’s plenty more to see if you care to vomit.
“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” Ephesians 4:25 (NIV)
By Guest Author & Survivor
The first time someone told me that Allan is a liar, a user, and an abuser of women, I was incensed. Outraged! Furious.
I responded to that woman with scathing rebuke.
The Second Time
The second time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I was angry. I denied it. It couldn’t be true. He is so charming and polite.
The Third Time
The third time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I paused. I asked Allan about it. The idea was ridiculous, he said. “She’s a jealous woman, she’s crazy,” he told me.
The Fourth Time
The fourth time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I investigated. I was deeply concerned by the evidence I found. I confronted him. He scoffed. I will never forget that smirk on his face.
The Fifth Time
The fifth time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I investigated again. Allan was lying to me.
The Reign of Hell Began
I confronted him. He lied. I confronted him again. He lied again. I confronted him again. He created total destruction and chaos while simultaneously kissing me, telling me he loved me, and making love to me.
I Left Him
He pursued me again. Still avoiding the truth.
I left him again.
I Forgave Him
I should not have.
I wasn’t the only one he was lying to.
I wasn’t special. I wasn’t loved. This wasn’t the “Once in a Lifetime Love” we whispered about.
I was someone he was using because he needed admiration and attention. A ticket to the USA. That’s all.
Allan Sexually Violated Me.
The lies. The lies were emotional fraud.
But bringing someone else’s sexual energies into my bed, into my womb. Without my permission. He desecrated me.
I was being used.
That’s what I live with.
Then One Day He Disappeared
No explanation.
Four Years
Four years of abuse cycles:
Shock. Chaos. Confusion.
Letter Received
Your boyfriend is sleeping with another woman. Here’s proof.
I could have Handled the Truth
“I don’t love you, I don’t want to be with you” would have been good enough for me. I could have walked away years sooner with dignity. With my sacred womb in tact.
Living with Anger
Now. I am angry at myself for overlooking the obvious.
Angry at myself for forgiving him.
Angry at myself for trusting his words when he said, “I want you here with me.”
Angry at myself for not realizing it was all about the money and the USA. It wasn’t about me.
I make no apologies for shining light on this truth.
I Hope No One Else Gets Hurt
His public persona is a fascinating study in the art of deception.
People want to believe what they see.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.
When public image is under threat, abusive personalities often pivot into “wholesome overload” — flooding social media with symbols of innocence, purity, and moral authority. Pets. Bible verses. Family rhetoric.
This is not harmless. It is calculated. The performance says, “Trust me. I am gentle, safe, and righteous.” Meanwhile, the masked persona remains unchanged — sometimes existing in plain sight on other platforms.
Kittens to Kinks
This week offered a textbook example: one account displaying images crafted to inspire trust; another filled with connections to female sexual objectification. This contrast is not accidental. Contradiction is the strategy. It keeps victims doubting their own instincts, asking themselves, “Could someone so kind really be harmful?”
Two platforms. Two stories. One truth.
We love adorable black kittens as much as anyone else. While we strongly encourage pets as a way to experience love, we are just as strongly concerned that carefully curated public imagery is an extension of the double-life playbook: Soft fur in public, hard-core in private.
If Allan has a new kitten, we wish he and the kitten all the best. But we fear the animal could be used as a prop in efforts to curate a more likable public image.
Violence in Mexico
Survivors deserve truth, safety, and dignity. If you have experienced emotional, spiritual, or relational abuse, our Survivor Support Team is here to listen, believe you, and connect you with resources to rebuild your life. Contact us in complete confidentiality.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.