Category: Education

  • The Gigolo in His Mother’s Attic

    Protagonist’s name changed for her safety

    During the Covid pandemic, Sophie—a divorced mother with disabilities, 16 years older than Allan—moved from California to La Paz. She sought relief from lockdowns, rehabilitation through swimming the Sea of Cortez, and opportunities to volunteer for social causes.

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    Allan targets disabled woman trying to rehabilitate in Sea of Cortez

    Facebook suggested Allan as a connection. His public profile presented him as a university rector and community figure. Sophie reached out, believing he could direct her toward volunteer opportunities. From the beginning, her intention was clear: service to the community, not romance.

    But Allan’s response was not professional. By their second meeting, he invaded her personal space, he followed her home without consent, and he lied about where he lived. Sophie rejected him, but Allan pressed forward, promising introductions to volunteer opportunities. Soon he was swimming beside her, camping with her, dining with her. 

    For nine months, Allan concealed the truth about his living situation. He claimed to own a house being remodeled, managed by his brother, Christopher. In reality, he owns no property and he lives in his mother’s attic. When exposed, he said Sophie could not visit him at his mother’s house because his mother dislikes visitors. Witnesses confirm those excuses are false. Years later, having forgotten his lie, Allan also inadvertently confirmed this is false.

    The deception served a purpose: to mask his poverty and to position Sophie’s luxury penthouse as a free lover’s pad.

    This pattern continued. Allan feigned wealth, spoke of his substantial savings and investments, but let Sophie pay for dinners, hotels, and travel. When inside her penthouse overlooking the Mogote, he acted like a kept man—giving orders to staff, sweeping floors, lingering on the sofa, and “forgetting” personal items when he left so he would have to return. He offered love without action, commitment without cost. Un gigoló.

    The financial imbalance grew clearer when Allan visited Sophie in California. He spoke of building a life together but expected her to fund it. He promised love and fidelity. Instead, he cultivated simultaneous relationships with other women, concealing them through lies: “I lost my phone,” “I am busy with politics,” “there’s no reception in Todos Santos,” “Kenno is sick.” He disappeared for weekends and holidays using his family as alibis while reassuring Sophie of his love.

    When Sophie asked him before moving permanently to La Paz—risking her career, finances, and leaving family behind—he swore:

    “I absolutely want you here with me.”

    She drove a thousand miles across the desert on that promise, investing thousands of dollars, only to arrive to chaos. Allan was already entangled with Jody Waterman, conducting a public, sexually charged online relationship. He was secretly pursuing Pamela Sue Martin in Todos Santos and Idaho. And he was chasing pussy of all ages and nationalities, including a minor, all while keeping Sophie as his sexual doormat and financial safety net.

    Suddenly, in summer 2023, Allan claimed his “rich cousin in Washington” had paid his first class expenses to Washington to help his cousin’s child.

    I want to reiterate: Allan used not just this child in his lies, but also his minor nephews on other occasions.

    In reality, this “rich cousin” was Pamela Sue Martin, thirty years his senior. Allan raved about her wealth and how “he” was paying for everything: dinners, flights, and all other travel expenses. The elaborate lie revealed the indisputable Mexican-gigolo strategy:

    Allan targets older, wealthier women, using deceit to gain sexual access and financial benefits.

    Allan’s deceit-for-sex career carries a critical legal implication: Idaho’s rape laws provide for prosectution for Artifice, Pretense, or Concealment and California law provides similar protections.

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    Un Gigoló Méxicano, Estafador Extraordinario

    Family Complicity

    Allan did not act alone. His family enables him. His mother knew he was traveling to various US states to spend time with different wealthy women old enough to be his mother.

    Maria Elena cannot claim ignorance of his motives. Allan’s own words implicate his brother Christopher and sister-in-law Fernanda, who chauffeured him to airports. Allan further confided that Fernanda coached him on how to build trust and intimacy with these women.

    The deception was not hidden from family; it was facilitated.

    Family must consider their their own position, their own family standing, and draw a clear line between Allan’s disgrace and their households:

    • Protege a tu propia familia: tu matrimonio, tus hijos, la reputación de tu hogar.
    • No te dejes atrapar por la falsedad de Allan.
    • Elimina la contaminación: asegúrate de que tu rama del árbol genealógico no se vea mancillada por el engaño y la deshonra de Allan.

    Allan lied for sex. He lied for money. He lied when truth would have served him better.

    The lies multiplied beyond what one interview can contain. Sophie became ill under the weight of Allan’s chaos. She told him she was breaking down. Instead of easing the harm, Allan escalated it—feigning empathy while deepening betrayal. She left La Paz six months later, burdened with all the costs of migration, relocation, and remigration, while Allan continued to whisper promises: “I love you more than you know. I am coming soon to be with you. Kenno is sick.”

    Kenno, Allan’s brother, was indeed sick. But Allan’s cruelty had nothing to do with that reality. Kenno was simply another alibi to cloak Allan’s relationships with other women.

    In the end, Sophie received a single message that opened the floodgates of truth.

    The pattern is undeniable: Allan lied for sex, lied for money, lied when truth would have served him better. His deceit is not incidental—it is pathological.

    And his family stands by him, complicit in the harm.

    In the below image, a young lady rightfully feels compelled to threaten Allan with violence for his ongoing inappropriate contact with her…three months after he told her mother he loved her…in a text message…one day after Allan was photographed in bed with Sophie.

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    Having trouble keeping track of Allan’s poor personal boundaries? There’s plenty more to see if you care to vomit.

    “Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” Ephesians 4:25 (NIV)

  • Facade of Strength & Joy

    Why Survivors Need Awareness

    Abusers often project a public persona of strength and confidence to mask deep-seated insecurities, a behavior that becomes more pronounced under public scrutiny. This curated image—whether through charm, dominance, or displays of control—serves as a shield to hide vulnerabilities. In private, their insecurity may manifest as manipulation or aggression to maintain power over others, but in public, they double down on this “strong & happy” facade to deflect criticism or exposure. This dynamic is rooted in their fear of being seen as inadequate, driving them to craft an image that demands admiration rather than authenticity.

    “Va a mi gym y se clava mirando a las morras como si fuera deporte. La neta, cómo nos echa ojo está bien creepy. Le decimos de broma ‘el galán’, pero la verdad nos da mala vibra, entonces tratamos de andar en bola cuando está por ahí. No es normal.” –Afectada

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    Social Media Overcompensation for Fragile Pride.

    The intensification of this behavior under scrutiny often stems from an abuser’s need to maintain control over their narrative. When challenged or exposed, their insecurity fuels defensive tactics like exaggerated displays of confidence to preserve their carefully constructed persona. For example, an abuser might respond to criticism with grandiose boasts or public displays of authority to reassert dominance and suppress doubts about their character. This pattern not only protects their fragile self-image but also manipulates how others perceive them, making it harder for their abusive behavior to be recognized or addressed.

    Abuse survivors must understand this behavior to recognize the disconnect between an abuser’s public image and their private actions. Awareness empowers survivors to break free from the manipulation, rebuild trust in their own perceptions, and seek support without being swayed by the abuser’s carefully crafted persona. By understanding this dynamic, survivors can better navigate their healing journey and protect themselves from further harm.

    Awkward attempts at public displays of normalcy or success

    Each new “I’m strong” post looks like damage control.  The more he fights to maintain control of his image, the more the performance exposes his weakness.

    He has no real path to recover his image without confronting the truth — and he won’t. Particularly as he surrounds himself with enablers rather than those who help him accept responsibility and transform for the betterment of self, his victims, and his community.

    See Educación for more information in Spanish.

    For Survivors
    We know the journey from shock to denial to realization to anger to recovery. If you need support along your journey, we are committed to protecting your identity. Reach out to us by email.

    Note on Transparency:
    In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.

  • The Hidden Role of Enablers in Abuse

    In every public case of abuse, there is at least one figure in the shadows — the enabler. She is not the headline. She is not the accused. Yet she advises him when to fight, when to hide, when to smile for the cameras.

    From years of survivor advocacy, we know these “strategic advisors” often believe they are helping. In truth, they become part of the cycle that keeps abuse unchallenged.

    They aim to help act as strategic advisors line-by-line. Sometimes they carry their own unresolved history — bitterness toward another woman, misguided loyalty, co-dependence, or the deep need to feel indispensable to a man in crisis.

    More concerning, however, is the lack of qualifications in this highly specialized arena and lack of insight into deeply buried, carefully guarded savage secrets.

    Yet simultaneously, without specialized qualifications and without the knowledge she needs to make informed decisions, she is called upon to advise, colsole, co-analyze, and defend. She is an enabler enabling a pathological abuser who cannot be satiated in a tormented intergenerational web of pursue-catch-conquer-discard. Viewing them all–the young, the elderly, the disabled–as Satan’s offering to him. Shrouded in family complicity.

    While hundreds of enabler variations exist, the abuser’s enabler normally, though exceptions exists, fall into one of five common traits, which we highlight in the image below.

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    Abuse Enablers

    We encourage those in this position to ask themselves:

    • Am I helping him avoid accountability?
    • Am I protecting his reputation at the cost of my own?
    • Am I prepared to be remembered as the one who shielded a man from the consequences of devouring the innocent?

    Silence is not neutral. Support is not harmless. And the “loyal helper” is never truly invisible.

    See “Educación” for a Spanish summary on enablers and their role in perpetuating harm.

    For Survivors
    We know the journey from shock to denial to realization to anger to recovery. If you need support along your journey, we are committed to protecting your identity. Reach out to us by email.

    For Enablers
    If you recognize yourself in these patterns, the most powerful thing you can do is step away, privately and permanently. You cannot save him without sacrificing your own integrity — and history remembers both the abuser and the one who stood beside him. Contact our Survivor Support Team if you need help.

    Note on Transparency:
    In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.


  • The Mask: How Abusers Use Public Image to Disarm You

    When public image is under threat, abusive personalities often pivot into “wholesome overload” — flooding social media with symbols of innocence, purity, and moral authority. Pets. Bible verses. Family rhetoric.

    This is not harmless. It is calculated. The performance says, “Trust me. I am gentle, safe, and righteous.” Meanwhile, the masked persona remains unchanged — sometimes existing in plain sight on other platforms.

    Kittens to Kinks

    This week offered a textbook example: one account displaying images crafted to inspire trust; another filled with connections to female sexual objectification. This contrast is not accidental. Contradiction is the strategy. It keeps victims doubting their own instincts, asking themselves, “Could someone so kind really be harmful?”

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    The mask on Instagram: A symbol of gentleness and virtue, chosen to evoke trust and affection.
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    The reality on X: Public alignment with content built on female sexual objectification.

    Two platforms. Two stories. One truth.

    We love adorable black kittens as much as anyone else. While we strongly encourage pets as a way to experience love, we are just as strongly concerned that carefully curated public imagery is an extension of the double-life playbook: Soft fur in public, hard-core in private.

    If Allan has a new kitten, we wish he and the kitten all the best. But we fear the animal could be used as a prop in efforts to curate a more likable public image.

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    Survivor Support Team

    Survivors deserve truth, safety, and dignity. If you have experienced emotional, spiritual, or relational abuse, our Survivor Support Team is here to listen, believe you, and connect you with resources to rebuild your life. Contact us in complete confidentiality.

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    Note on Transparency:
    In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.

    See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle