Esta mañana me desperté con pesadillas sobre lo que Allan Alexander Amador Crevantes me hizo durante años. Mentiras, manipulación psicológica, abusos sexuales, traición a mi confianza, descubrir que es un gigoló, un embaucador, un narcisista. – Superviviente del abuso de Allan
The Anatomy of Weaponized Love
Weaponized love is not gender-specific, though it often follows patriarchal scripts.
It operates by exploiting our most sacred human need: to belong.
It sounds like this (actual text messages from Allan in 2024):
The messages all look like a normal love affair, right?
The author, Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes, was intimately involved with another woman at the time he sent these messages. Additionally, at this time, he was leading a third elderly woman to believe she was his love interest. And also inviting two other elderly woman on dates.
Weaponized attachment mirrors narcissistic abuse cycles (idealize-devalue-discard).
This is why it is important to view domestic violence in context. As stand alone messages, there is no alarm in an established trusting relationship. In context, we see a psychopathology and serious harm to the target.
The next step follows the typical abuse cycle and involves devaluation and discard. See Pattern Evidence & Case Study for live example.
Idealization and devaluation form the oscillating core of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), manifesting as “splitting”—a primitive defense where the other is all-good or all-bad. In NPD, idealization serves self-aggrandizement: the partner is “love-bombed” with excessive praise and mirroring to secure narcissistic supply, creating an addictive pedestal. The narcissist flips from intense expressions of love to devaluation, weaponizing contempt, silence, and attachment to gain superiority, as these tactics inherently destabilize his victim by causing oxytocin and dopamine withdrawal symptoms, fostering dependency.
Devaluation erupts abruptly: ghosting enforces erasure, lying distorts reality (gaslighting). In NPD, the pivot often stems from narcissistic injury.
This swing is not mere moodiness but a structural fracture in self-cohesion. Narcissist then point to the victim as “unstable” and assert himself as the more stable, knowing partner. Unbeknownst to most narcississt, however, is that power and control experts transparently understand this play and it is well documented in scholarly archives.
Strategically, recognize the pattern early: love-bombing lacks mutuality, devaluation lacks proportionality.
Fraud is the act of gaining benefit by lying.
When a man, such as Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes, lies to a woman to get sex, money, housing, travel, or immigration advantage, he is committing fraud. He is gaining valuable things from her under false terms. He is presenting himself as something he is not. He promises things, including love, he never intends to give. This is not “playing around.” This is not romance. This is not misunderstanding. This is deliberate deception for personal gain.
Fraud in business is punished. Fraud in banking is punished. Fraud in government documents is punished. Yet when fraud happens in intimate relationships, people tend to ignore the financial and emotional loss. They call it “bad breakup.” They call it “dating mistake.” But it is the same category of harm. A woman gives time, money, gifts, care, and sex based on false information. He receives profit. She receives loss. That is the definition of fraud.
Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes is a fraud.
Calling it “love” does not make it less criminal. Calling it “relationship issues” does not make it less serious. Women are targeted every day by men like Allan who want financial access without effort.
Allan grooms victims with fake romance. Allan manipulates women to give resources they would never give if they knew the truth.
This is fraud, and society needs to treat it as fraud, because it steals from women in every dimension of their lives.
Protagonist’s name changed for her safety
During the Covid pandemic, Sophie—a divorced mother with disabilities, 16 years older than Allan—moved from California to La Paz. She sought relief from lockdowns, rehabilitation through swimming the Sea of Cortez, and opportunities to volunteer for social causes.
Facebook suggested Allan as a connection. His public profile presented him as a university rector and community figure. Sophie reached out, believing he could direct her toward volunteer opportunities. From the beginning, her intention was clear: service to the community, not romance.
But Allan’s response was not professional. By their second meeting, he invaded her personal space, he followed her home without consent, and he lied about where he lived. Sophie rejected him, but Allan pressed forward, promising introductions to volunteer opportunities. Soon he was swimming beside her, camping with her, dining with her.
For nine months, Allan concealed the truth about his living situation. He claimed to own a house being remodeled, managed by his brother, Christopher. In reality, he owns no property and he lives in his mother’s attic. When exposed, he said Sophie could not visit him at his mother’s house because his mother dislikes visitors. Witnesses confirm those excuses are false. Years later, having forgotten his lie, Allan also inadvertently confirmed this is false.
The deception served a purpose: to mask his poverty and to position Sophie’s luxury penthouse as a free lover’s pad.
This pattern continued. Allan feigned wealth, spoke of his substantial savings and investments, but let Sophie pay for dinners, hotels, and travel. When inside her penthouse overlooking the Mogote, he acted like a kept man—giving orders to staff, sweeping floors, lingering on the sofa, and “forgetting” personal items when he left so he would have to return. He offered love without action, commitment without cost. Un gigoló.
The financial imbalance grew clearer when Allan visited Sophie in California. He spoke of building a life together but expected her to fund it. He promised love and fidelity. Instead, he cultivated simultaneous relationships with other women, concealing them through lies: “I lost my phone,” “I am busy with politics,” “there’s no reception in Todos Santos,” “Kenno is sick.” He disappeared for weekends and holidays using his family as alibis while reassuring Sophie of his love.
When Sophie asked him before moving permanently to La Paz—risking her career, finances, and leaving family behind—he swore:
“I absolutely want you here with me.”
She drove a thousand miles across the desert on that promise, investing thousands of dollars, only to arrive to chaos. Allan was already entangled with Jody Waterman, conducting a public, sexually charged online relationship. He was secretly pursuing Pamela Sue Martin in Todos Santos and Idaho. And he was chasing pussy of all ages and nationalities, including a minor, all while keeping Sophie as his sexual doormat and financial safety net.
Suddenly, in summer 2023, Allan claimed his “rich cousin in Washington” had paid his first class expenses to Washington to help his cousin’s child.
I want to reiterate: Allan used not just this child in his lies, but also his minor nephews on other occasions.
In reality, this “rich cousin” was Pamela Sue Martin, thirty years his senior. Allan raved about her wealth and how “he” was paying for everything: dinners, flights, and all other travel expenses. The elaborate lie revealed the indisputable Mexican-gigolo strategy:
Allan targets older, wealthier women, using deceit to gain sexual access and financial benefits.
Allan’s deceit-for-sex career carries a critical legal implication: Idaho’s rape laws provide for prosectution for Artifice, Pretense, or Concealment and California law provides similar protections.
Family Complicity
Allan did not act alone. His family enables him. His mother knew he was traveling to various US states to spend time with different wealthy women old enough to be his mother.
Maria Elena cannot claim ignorance of his motives. Allan’s own words implicate his brother Christopher and sister-in-law Fernanda, who chauffeured him to airports. Allan further confided that Fernanda coached him on how to build trust and intimacy with these women.
The deception was not hidden from family; it was facilitated.
Family must consider their their own position, their own family standing, and draw a clear line between Allan’s disgrace and their households:
Allan lied for sex. He lied for money. He lied when truth would have served him better.
The lies multiplied beyond what one interview can contain. Sophie became ill under the weight of Allan’s chaos. She told him she was breaking down. Instead of easing the harm, Allan escalated it—feigning empathy while deepening betrayal. She left La Paz six months later, burdened with all the costs of migration, relocation, and remigration, while Allan continued to whisper promises: “I love you more than you know. I am coming soon to be with you. Kenno is sick.”
Kenno, Allan’s brother, was indeed sick. But Allan’s cruelty had nothing to do with that reality. Kenno was simply another alibi to cloak Allan’s relationships with other women.
In the end, Sophie received a single message that opened the floodgates of truth.
The pattern is undeniable: Allan lied for sex, lied for money, lied when truth would have served him better. His deceit is not incidental—it is pathological.
And his family stands by him, complicit in the harm.
In the below image, a young lady rightfully feels compelled to threaten Allan with violence for his ongoing inappropriate contact with her…three months after he told her mother he loved her…in a text message…one day after Allan was photographed in bed with Sophie.
Having trouble keeping track of Allan’s poor personal boundaries? There’s plenty more to see if you care to vomit.
“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” Ephesians 4:25 (NIV)
More abuser tactics for the narcissistic:
When one supply source threatens exposure, run to the other supply source and secure it.
She is the most vulnerable to the exact deception pattern outlined in Allan’s psychological profile.
Allan is actively bonding tighter to prevent losing her. She is in the jurisdiction where his deceptive sexual behavior is criminal. Silence protects him, not her.
He will repeat the same abuse cycle until she learns the truth and/or she is harmed.
“Patterns suggest efforts calculated to maintain influence, risking destabilization of romantic partners.”
Beware of the Mexican Gigalo
By Guest Author & Survivor
The first time someone told me that Allan is a liar, a user, and an abuser of women, I was incensed. Outraged! Furious.
I responded to that woman with scathing rebuke.
The Second Time
The second time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I was angry. I denied it. It couldn’t be true. He is so charming and polite.
The Third Time
The third time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I paused. I asked Allan about it. The idea was ridiculous, he said. “She’s a jealous woman, she’s crazy,” he told me.
The Fourth Time
The fourth time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I investigated. I was deeply concerned by the evidence I found. I confronted him. He scoffed. I will never forget that smirk on his face.
The Fifth Time
The fifth time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I investigated again. Allan was lying to me.
The Reign of Hell Began
I confronted him. He lied. I confronted him again. He lied again. I confronted him again. He created total destruction and chaos while simultaneously kissing me, telling me he loved me, and making love to me.
I Left Him
He pursued me again. Still avoiding the truth.
I left him again.
I Forgave Him
I should not have.
I wasn’t the only one he was lying to.
I wasn’t special. I wasn’t loved. This wasn’t the “Once in a Lifetime Love” we whispered about.
I was someone he was using because he needed admiration and attention. A ticket to the USA. That’s all.
Allan Sexually Violated Me.
The lies. The lies were emotional fraud.
But bringing someone else’s sexual energies into my bed, into my womb. Without my permission. He desecrated me.
I was being used.
That’s what I live with.
Then One Day He Disappeared
No explanation.
Four Years
Four years of abuse cycles:
Shock. Chaos. Confusion.
Letter Received
Your boyfriend is sleeping with another woman. Here’s proof.
I could have Handled the Truth
“I don’t love you, I don’t want to be with you” would have been good enough for me. I could have walked away years sooner with dignity. With my sacred womb in tact.
Living with Anger
Now. I am angry at myself for overlooking the obvious.
Angry at myself for forgiving him.
Angry at myself for trusting his words when he said, “I want you here with me.”
Angry at myself for not realizing it was all about the money and the USA. It wasn’t about me.
I make no apologies for shining light on this truth.
I Hope No One Else Gets Hurt
His public persona is a fascinating study in the art of deception.
People want to believe what they see.
Thank You God
I’m deeply grateful for your gifts.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.
In every public case of abuse, there is at least one figure in the shadows — the enabler. She is not the headline. She is not the accused. Yet she advises him when to fight, when to hide, when to smile for the cameras.
From years of survivor advocacy, we know these “strategic advisors” often believe they are helping. In truth, they become part of the cycle that keeps abuse unchallenged.
They aim to help act as strategic advisors line-by-line. Sometimes they carry their own unresolved history — bitterness toward another woman, misguided loyalty, co-dependence, or the deep need to feel indispensable to a man in crisis.
More concerning, however, is the lack of qualifications in this highly specialized arena and lack of insight into deeply buried, carefully guarded savage secrets.
Yet simultaneously, without specialized qualifications and without the knowledge she needs to make informed decisions, she is called upon to advise, colsole, co-analyze, and defend. She is an enabler enabling a pathological abuser who cannot be satiated in a tormented intergenerational web of pursue-catch-conquer-discard. Viewing them all–the young, the elderly, the disabled–as Satan’s offering to him. Shrouded in family complicity.
While hundreds of enabler variations exist, the abuser’s enabler normally, though exceptions exists, fall into one of five common traits, which we highlight in the image below.
We encourage those in this position to ask themselves:
Silence is not neutral. Support is not harmless. And the “loyal helper” is never truly invisible.
See “Educación” for a Spanish summary on enablers and their role in perpetuating harm.
For Survivors
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For Enablers
If you recognize yourself in these patterns, the most powerful thing you can do is step away, privately and permanently. You cannot save him without sacrificing your own integrity — and history remembers both the abuser and the one who stood beside him. Contact our Survivor Support Team if you need help.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.
Woman is a gift of life, unity, and shared dominion.
Across history, Scripture has drawn a clear line between what God gives and what the forces of destruction seek to consume.
In Genesis 2:22, the phrase “he brought her to the man” implies a divine act of presentation — woman as a gift of life, unity, and shared dominion. In Revelation 12:4, the Beast stands before the woman, ready to devour what she brings forth.
“The beast I saw resembled a leopard, but had feet like those of a bear and a mouth like that of a lion. The dragon gave the beast his power and his throne and great authority.” — Revelation 13:2
What God gives as a gift, the Beast seeks to destroy.
Patterns of Abuse
Patterns of emotional and psychological abuse are clear and consistent:
When a man convinces a woman to trust him, to love him, to be with him and then abuses her, the pattern moves beyond imitation of evil into embodiment of it.
Such men stand condemned in the eyes of God, for they wage war against His creation, His image-bearers, and His gift to man.
Violence against women Mexico
Case Study: La Paz, Baja California Sur
One recent example in La Paz shows how this pattern manifests in real life. Multiple survivors, across years, describe the same sequence of behaviors.
Tactic One: Triangulation
Triangulation is when an abuser uses a third party to provoke jealousy or competition, destabilizing the relationship and asserting control.
Example:
Survivors report that Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes used Jody Waterman as an instrument of triangulation to devalue his partner, [redacted].
As his defense, he mocked Jody as “crazy” for her “mysterious” obsession with him — even ridiculing her for purchasing the same book (How to Love) that his girlfriend, [redacted], had gifted him.
“He was calling Jody crazy and I was thinking maybe she is crazy. But something inside of me kept thinking he is responsible for her craziness because no woman idealizes a man like that without significant encouragement. These public posts must be just the tip of the iceberg.” — [redacted]
Tactic Two: Gaslighting
Gaslighting is the deliberate distortion of reality to make the victim question their own perceptions, often accompanied by shaming language.
Example:
When confronted, Allan erupted into a torrent of gaslighting — even calling [redacted] a “teenager” for questioning his and Jody’s public messages on Facebook. This occurred just three months after he encouraged [redacted] to move to La Paz at her expense, while simultaneously pursuing multiple other women, at least one Idaho woman who clearly believed Allan was her loyal partner at the time.
Tactic Three: Labeling
Abusers often neutralize credibility by attaching derogatory labels to those who confront them.
Example:
Allan labels Jody “crazy.” Pamela is “insanely jealous.” He dismissed [redacted] as “disrespecting his space” and “trespassing boundaries” when she confronted his triangulation.
No empathy. No Accountability. No remorse.
I had just driven an exhausting thousand miles through the desert to be with him – at his request – only to face this chaos when I arrived.”
— [redacted]
Tactic Four: Public–Private Contradiction
This is the “mask” — public morality and virtue-signaling that conceals private exploitation.
Allan’s posts about Christian virtue, cute kittens, travel to beautiful places, and family values serve as intentional public distractions from his private reality.
In present-day Mexico — where violence against women is layered, nuanced, and multidimensional — these patterns are part of a continuum of harm that too often ends in femicide.
Why Silence is Deadly
Silence and shame cause even the strongest women to collapse — and when a woman collapses, so do her children’s futures.
“Cry aloud, spare not, lift up thy voice like a trumpet, and show my people their transgression.” — Isaiah 58:1
To remain silent is to hand the Beast our souls.
Speaking Protects the Next Victim
If you have experienced emotional, spiritual, or relational abuse, our Survivor Support Team is here to listen, believe you, and connect you with resources in full confidentiality.
Truth is the first act of protection.
These are not “private issues.” They are part of the continuum of harm that ends in femicide. We cannot remain silent.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.
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Is La Paz, Mexico safe
By Anonymous Survivor
In the holy book of Revelation, “the Beast” is a satanic instrument of chaos, deception, and destruction, seeking to dominate and devastate humanity on a global scale.
La Paz, BCS Mexico
Today, we learned through evidence that, in addition to exploiting elderly women, Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes pursued a mother and her daughter just two weeks apart, while emotionally defrauding and bedding other women during the same two-week period. THE MARK OF THE BEAST.
Evidence shows: Allan love bombs, gaslights, emotionally defrauds, triangulates, and discards women as if they are Satan’s whores instead of God’s sacred gifts.
Allan is not simply a prolific abuser camouflaging himself behind a carefully curated mask of Christian morality and patriarchal virtue.
Allan is not a sinner in need of redemption.
Allan is an active, irredeemable enemy of God.
“The Beast was given power to wage war against God’s holy people and to conquer them.”
Revelation 13:7 (NIV)
The women Allan abused are honorable women. Loyal servants of God. Most are mothers who carried heavy crosses to not only survive, but ensure her children thrived against all odds. Many are elderly (30+ years his senior). Some without fathers or brothers to protect them. Open, vulnerable hearts. Perfect targets.
I vomitted as I penned this post to relieve my throat of choking agony. Viewing evidence of the Beast’s spiritual warfare against a mother and her daughter was a bigger lump than I could swallow. My body had to expel the shock and horror.
God promised triumph over the Beast through testimony:
“They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.” —Revelation 12:11 (NIV)
The Beast does not prevail in his battle with God. Along with a False Prophet, he is thrown alive into the “lake of fire burning with sulfur” (Revelation 19:20), a symbol of eternal torment and final judgment. This act destroys the Beast’s physical and spiritual influence forever, without any resurrection or further opportunity to abuse God’s women like Satan’s whores.
“And I saw what looked like a sea of glass glowing with fire and, standing beside the sea, those who had been victorious over the beast and its image and over the number of its name. They held harps given them by God.”
—Revelation 15:2 (NIV)
Through direct divine judgment, Allan’s reign of terror is over. A Faithful and true leader has emerged, leading the armies of heaven. He calls upon us to use our power, the gifts He bestowed upon us, to help others see Him, His light, His glory, and to experience His faithful love.
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Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, we will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.