See You Soon: A Tool of Psychological Manipulation
Allan uses the phrase “see you soon” as a weapon to manipulate relationships by persistently uttering the phrase without any genuine intent to follow through.
Allan’s tactic, known as FUTURE FAKING, involves dangling vague promises of future contact or commitment to string someone along, often keeping them as a secondary option while pursuing primary interests elsewhere.
By repeatedly saying “I’ll see you soon” or “I’ll call tomorrow” without action, Allan fosters hope and emotional investment, ensuring his victim remains available and compliant—waiting patiently on the sidelines.
When confronted about the lack of follow-through, Allan deflects responsibility by blaming “cultural differences,” claiming that in Mexican culture, “soon” (like “pronto” or “ahorita”) is inherently flexible and not meant literally. This excuse weaponizes a real cultural nuance to evade accountability.
Allan shifts blame onto a woman’s “unreasonable” expectations or supposed character flaws, conditioning her to suppress questions. Any pushback triggers anger, withdrawal, sulking, or silent treatment, punishing her for demanding clarity and reinforcing compliance through fear of abandonment.
“This is exactly what Allan did to me. He shouted at me for seeking confirmation of “when, what time,” as if I was the unreasonable person. He always, for years and to the bitter end, told me, “I will see you soon,” “I will call you tomorrow” and I now realize just how insidious and how abusive he really is.” — Survivor of Allan’s Abuse
Allan’s pattern is sinister and pathological: it degrades self-esteem, destabilizes emotional security, and maintains control via intermittent hope mixed with chronic lying and parallel relationships.
Recognize it as abuse, not culture—true cultural flexibility doesn’t involve deliberate deception or punitive reactions to boundaries.
Abusers exploit any stereotype (cultural, gender, or otherwise) to gaslight; document patterns and seek support to break the cycle. Prioritize actions over words for healthier connections.
Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes is a psychologically violent man. Do not mistake his outward kindness, lack of direct confrontation, or passive-aggressive communication style as anything short of violent.
