Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes

Category: Victimology

Facade of Strength & Joy

Why Survivors Need Awareness

Abusers often project a public persona of strength and confidence to mask deep-seated insecurities, a behavior that becomes more pronounced under public scrutiny. This curated image—whether through charm, dominance, or displays of control—serves as a shield to hide vulnerabilities. In private, their insecurity may manifest as manipulation or aggression to maintain power over others, but in public, they double down on this “strong & happy” facade to deflect criticism or exposure. This dynamic is rooted in their fear of being seen as inadequate, driving them to craft an image that demands admiration rather than authenticity.

“Va a mi gym y se clava mirando a las morras como si fuera deporte. La neta, cómo nos echa ojo está bien creepy. Le decimos de broma ‘el galán’, pero la verdad nos da mala vibra, entonces tratamos de andar en bola cuando está por ahí. No es normal.” –Afectada

Social Media Overcompensation for Fragile Pride.

The intensification of this behavior under scrutiny often stems from an abuser’s need to maintain control over their narrative. When challenged or exposed, their insecurity fuels defensive tactics like exaggerated displays of confidence to preserve their carefully constructed persona. For example, an abuser might respond to criticism with grandiose boasts or public displays of authority to reassert dominance and suppress doubts about their character. This pattern not only protects their fragile self-image but also manipulates how others perceive them, making it harder for their abusive behavior to be recognized or addressed.

Abuse survivors must understand this behavior to recognize the disconnect between an abuser’s public image and their private actions. Awareness empowers survivors to break free from the manipulation, rebuild trust in their own perceptions, and seek support without being swayed by the abuser’s carefully crafted persona. By understanding this dynamic, survivors can better navigate their healing journey and protect themselves from further harm.

Awkward attempts at public displays of normalcy or success

Each new “I’m strong” post looks like damage control. The more he fights to maintain control of his image, the more the performance exposes his weakness.

He has no real path to recover his image without confronting the truth — and he won’t. Particularly as he surrounds himself with enablers rather than those who help him accept responsibility and transform for the betterment of self, his victims, and his community.

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For Survivors
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Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.

August 16, 2025
Devour Her Like a Lion: A Case Study in Triangulation & Gaslighting
Woman is a gift of life, unity, and shared dominion.

Across history, Scripture has drawn a clear line between what God gives and what the forces of destruction seek to consume.

In Genesis 2:22, the phrase “he brought her to the man” implies a divine act of presentation — woman as a gift of life, unity, and shared dominion. In Revelation 12:4, the Beast stands before the woman, ready to devour what she brings forth.

“The beast I saw resembled a leopard, but had feet like those of a bear and a mouth like that of a lion. The dragon gave the beast his power and his throne and great authority.” — Revelation 13:2

What God gives as a gift, the Beast seeks to destroy.

The Pattern of Abuse

The pattern of abuse is clear and consistent:
1. Idealization — overwhelming attention, promises, and moral posturing.
2. Devaluation — gaslighting, triangulation, lying, public humiliation, emotional sabotage.
3. Discard — withdrawal, chaos, ghosting, and refusal to provide truthful discourse.
When a man convinces a woman to trust him, to love him, to be with him and then abuses her, the pattern moves beyond imitation of evil into embodiment of it.

Such men stand condemned in the eyes of God, for they wage war against His creation, His image-bearers, and His gift to man.

Executing the Beast’s mandate to corrupt innocence, desecrate love, and annihilate life at its source.

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Case Study: La Paz, Baja California Sur

One recent example in La Paz shows how this pattern manifests in real life. Multiple survivors, across years, describe the same sequence of behaviors.

Tactic One: Triangulation

Triangulation is when an abuser uses a third party to provoke jealousy or competition, destabilizing the relationship and asserting control.

Example:
Survivors report that Allan used Jody Waterman as an instrument of triangulation to devalue his partner.

As his defense, he mocked Jody as “crazy” for her “mysterious” obsession with him — even ridiculing her for purchasing the same book (How to Love) that his girlfriend had gifted him.

“He was calling Jody crazy and I was thinking maybe she is crazy. But something inside of me kept thinking he is responsible for her craziness because no woman idealizes a man like that without significant encouragement. These public posts must be just the tip of the iceberg.” -Survivor

Tactic Two: Gaslighting

Gaslighting is the deliberate distortion of reality to make the victim question their own perceptions, often accompanied by shaming language.

Example:
When confronted, Allan erupted into a torrent of gaslighting — even calling his partner a “teenager” for responding to his and Jody’s public messages on Facebook. This occurred just three months after he encouraged her to move from California to La Paz at her expense, while simultaneously pursuing multiple other women, at least one of which also believed Allan was her boyfriend at the time.

Allan’s former girlfriend clarified Allan’s allegation that she did not contain herself and talk “in front of him” about it was untrue and served as additional layers of painful gaslilghting.

Tactic Three: Labeling

Abusers often neutralize credibility by attaching derogatory labels to those who confront them.

Example:

Allan labels Jody “crazy.” His pre-pandemic girlfriend is “insanely jealous.” He dismissed this case study survivor as “disrespecting his space” and “trespassing boundaries” when she confronted his triangulation.

No empathy. No Accountability. No remorse.

I had just driven an exhausting thousand miles through the desert to be with him only to face this chaos when I arrived.”

— Survivor

Jody Waterman

Tactic Four: Public–Private Contradiction

This is the “mask” — public morality and virtue-signaling that conceals private exploitation.

Allan’s posts about Christian virtue, cute kittens, and family values serve as intentional public distractions from his private reality.

Theological and Cultural Significance

From Eden, where woman was presented to man as a divine gift, to Revelation, where the Dragon waits to devour, Scripture shows the relentless mission of the Beast: to corrupt innocence, desecrate love, and annihilate life at its source.

In present-day Mexico — where violence against women is layered, nuanced, and multidimensional — these patterns are part of a continuum of harm that too often ends in femicide.

Why Silence is Deadly

Silence and shame cause even the strongest women to collapse — and when a woman collapses, so do her children’s futures.

“Cry aloud, spare not, lift up thy voice like a trumpet, and show my people their transgression.” — Isaiah 58:1

To remain silent is to hand the Beast our souls.

Speaking Protects the Next Victim

If you have experienced emotional, spiritual, or relational abuse, our Survivor Support Team is here to listen, believe you, and connect you with resources in full confidentiality.

Truth is the first act of protection.

These are not “private issues.” They are part of the continuum of harm that ends in femicide. We cannot remain silent.

Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.

See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle

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August 11, 2025
“The Beast”

By Anonymous Survivor

In the holy book of Revelation, “the Beast” is a satanic instrument of chaos, deception, and destruction, seeking to dominate and devastate humanity on a global scale.

La Paz, BCS Mexico

Triangulating Mother & Daughter

Today, we learned through evidence that, in addition to exploiting elderly women, Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes pursued a mother and her daughter just two weeks apart, while emotionally defrauding and bedding other women during the same two-week period. THE MARK OF THE BEAST.

Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes’ debauchery is aligned with the Beast

Conquer & Destroy Women

Evidence shows: Allan love bombs, gaslights, emotionally defrauds, triangulates, and discards women as if they are Satan’s whores instead of God’s sacred gifts.

Allan is not simply a prolific abuser camouflaging himself behind a carefully curated mask of Christian morality and patriarchal virtue.

Allan is not a sinner in need of redemption.

Allan is an active, irredeemable enemy of God.

“The Beast was given power to wage war against God’s holy people and to conquer them.”

Revelation 13:7 (NIV)

The women Allan abused are honorable women. Loyal servants of God. Most are mothers who carried heavy crosses to not only survive, but ensure her children thrived against all odds. Many are elderly (30+ years his senior). Some without fathers or brothers to protect them. Open, vulnerable hearts. Perfect targets.

I vomitted as I penned this post to relieve my throat of choking agony. Viewing evidence of the Beast’s spiritual warfare against a mother and her daughter was a bigger lump than I could swallow. My body had to expel the shock and horror.

Your Testimony is Spiritual Victory

God promised triumph over the Beast through testimony:

“They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.” —Revelation 12:11 (NIV)

Beware of carefully curated public images

The Beast’s destruction is swift, complete, and orchestrated by God

The Beast does not prevail in his battle with God. Along with a False Prophet, he is thrown alive into the “lake of fire burning with sulfur” (Revelation 19:20), a symbol of eternal torment and final judgment. This act destroys the Beast’s physical and spiritual influence forever, without any resurrection or further opportunity to abuse God’s women like Satan’s whores.

“And I saw what looked like a sea of glass glowing with fire and, standing beside the sea, those who had been victorious over the beast and its image and over the number of its name. They held harps given them by God.”

—Revelation 15:2 (NIV)

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Through direct divine judgment, Allan’s reign of terror is over. A Faithful and true leader has emerged, leading the armies of heaven. He calls upon us to use our power, the gifts He bestowed upon us, to help others see Him, His light, His glory, and to experience His faithful love.

Your Story

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When a young, innocent girl experiences such disgust at your hands that she is compelled to threaten you with violence, you are God’s enemy.

Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes

Violence Baja California Sur, Mexico

Note on Transparency:

In the interest of accuracy and fairness, we will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.

August 6, 2025
USA Embassy Warning

La Paz, Baja California Sur, Mexico

Call for Caution: Predators targeting elderly women on the Baja!

In a Baja Safety Watch article, former Hollywood actress Pamela Sue Martin claims she suffered financial loss to Allan Amador Cervantes.

Violence in La Paz, Baja California Sur

This report mirrors the detailed psychological profile of Allan.

In the above images, text messages from Allan Amador Cervantes are from 1st week of November 2023 – the same dates he was texting other women sexually charged messages and the same date (November 3, 2023) Pamela Sue Martin issued a public statement announcing Allan is her boyfriend!

The text messages in Spanish highlight that Allan pursued a mother and a daughter simultaneously. The daughter is outraged and she publicly shames Allan for his abuse.

Another public allegation (above) highlights that Allan used his position of authority to take advantage of a vulnerable woman.

If you or someone you know is in danger, reach out to our confidential survivor support email. Your safety and security are our number one priority.

Note on Transparency:

In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.

August 5, 2025
What is Rape?

By Anonymous Survivor

“Allan didn’t just betray me—he violated me on a level so profound, I’m questioning what counts as rape.”

He treated me inhumanly.

Watching him play the victim role only deepens my questions about his humanity.

Note on Transparency:

In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content, nor has he provided contradictory evidence. See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle

July 30, 2025
Allan Nearly Killed Me
By Guest Writer

Publishing Note: This reflection documents the psychological and emotional impact of prolonged emotional abuse. Shared anonymously to protect the writer’s safety, it centers the lived reality of survivors.

Allan Alexander Amador Cerantes

I do not speak to destroy Allan. I speak because silence almost destroyed me.

Some forms of abuse leave no bruises. No hospital visits. Only a slow disintegration of self. One day, I looked in the mirror and wondered, “Who have I become?”

This is what Allan did to me.

Allan did not start by yelling or threatening. Instead, he used intimacy. A curated tenderness that masked a deep need for power and control. At first, I felt chosen. Seen. Revered. Later, I was simply erased. No longer human.

Allan courted me until I trusted him. Then he vanished. Returned. Shared private pain. Vanished again. Refused to answer phone calls and WhatsApp messages. Made excuses that never aligned with his “I love you’s.”

He offered promises. Then he didn’t bother to fulfill them. He lied so frequently and with such certainty that I began to distrust my own perception.

Every concern I voiced was turned against me. In asking for the bare minimum, I became “bad.” I asked basic questions: Do I matter to you? He responded with traumatizing contempt.

Emotional abuse works by eroding your sanity. Your sense of reality begins to diminish. You apologize. Minimize. Wait. Hope.

Meanwhile, Allan moved on to someone else—secretly, surgically, refusing me closure. I could have handled the truth, but he robbed me of the opportunity to make an informed decision by lying. When I confronted him, he simply lied again. When pressed for clarity, he created chaos that left me gobsmacked. Allan intentionally and systematically disempowered me.

I thought:
- If I were thinner, prettier, younger, richer.
- If I expected less than the bare minimum.
- If I were quieter about the discrepancies in his tales.
- If I hadn’t needed anything at all.
- Then maybe he would treat me with the same love that rolled off his tongue so easily: “I love you.”
- Or maybe he would consider me human.
The spiral of emotional fraud nearly ended me.

Many women die in silence from emotional abuse. I almost joined them.

I wanted the pain to stop, but I was disoriented and torn between a bond Allan had carefully weaved and his abuse. Tearfully, I begged him. I told him how I felt about his lies, about his abuse. I told him what was happening to me. I was collapsing psychologically. He did not care.

I contemplated ending my life, making it appear accidental so that it would hurt my family less. I imagined a bottle of tequila and sleeping pills would end the pain Allan caused me.

Many women die in silence from emotional abuse. And I almost joined them. Emotional abuse is that violent.

But I didn’t die.

I wrote instead.

Allan may never face the consequences of his violence in court or a prison. But bringing the gravity of Allan’s conduct to light is another form of justice. The justice of truth made visible. The justice of naming the violence what it is: violence. The justice of no longer carrying the weight of his abuse alone.

Allan will not apologize. He prefers avoidance and enlisting others in a false victim narrative.

Two important issues: 1) Allan’s immediate reaction is triangulation–pitting the public against his accuser; and 2) Allan took to Facebook to control the narrative rather than apologize. True victimology looks much different than this. Allan’s post is instead a confession of guilt.

Why speak out now after years of silence?

During my period of silence, Allan hurt other vulnerable women.

Knowing that my silence paved the road for Allan to abuse another woman makes me sicker than the abuse I personally endured.

Allan’s conduct deserves heightened awareness for everyone’s benefit because silence enables more violence.

Reclaiming my power looks like this:
- Telling the truth
- Refusing shame
- Making the invisible visible
If you’re reading this and you ache for recognition, know this:

You’re not overreacting. You’re not imagining it. You’re not alone. You are not too much. You are not crazy. You are not to blame.

I survived Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes’ abuse.

Speaking is my duty to other women, other men, and our global community.

Abusers must face consequences.

Note on Transparency:

In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content, nor has he provided contradictory evidence. See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle
July 9, 2025
How women react to emotional fraud
Victimology in the context of psychological domestic violence, particularly involving years-long systematic gaslighting, emotional fraud, and triangulation, focuses on understanding the impact on the victim’s psyche, behavior, and lived experience.

Below, we outline the core traits, reactions, and experiences of a woman subjected to abuse, grounded in psychological patterns observed in such dynamics. The following insights are structured to be concise yet comprehensive, reflecting the complex interplay of emotional manipulation and its effects.

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1. Erosion of Self-Esteem:
  - Years of gaslighting—being told her perceptions, memories, or feelings are wrong—leads to profound self-doubt.
  - Emotional fraud, such as false promises or deceit about intentions, deepens her sense of unworthiness, as she internalizes blame for the relationship’s failures.
2. Hypervigilance and Anxiety:
  - She becomes attuned to her partner’s moods, constantly monitoring his behavior to avoid triggering criticism, manipulation, or rejection.
  - She may experience chronic anxiety, fearing she’s “not enough” compared to others in a triangulated dynamic.
3. Dependency and Attachment:
  - Despite the abuse, her disorientation from the abuse fosters emotional dependency, often reinforced by intermittent reinforcement (alternating affection and cruelty). This creates a trauma bond, making it hard to leave.
  - She may idealize the abuser, clinging to memories of his “good” moments.
4. Emotional Exhaustion:
  - The constant manipulation drains her emotionally, leading to feelings of hopelessness, fatigue, or numbness. She may lose interest in hobbies or social connections, as her energy is consumed by navigating the abuse.
5. Cognitive Dissonance:
  - She struggles to reconcile the man she loves with his abusive behavior, creating internal conflict. Gaslighting exacerbates this, as she’s conditioned to doubt her own understanding of the relationship.
Reactions to the Abuse
1. Self-Blame and Guilt:
  - She internalizes the abuser’s narrative that she’s at fault for his behavior or the relationship’s problems.
  - Triangulation intensifies self-blame, as she compares herself unfavorably to the other women in the triangulation.
2. People-Pleasing Behavior:
  - To regain her partner’s approval or avoid conflict, she may suppress her own needs, opinions, or emotions, becoming overly accommodating or submissive.
  - She might work harder to “prove” her worth, whether through emotional labor, physical appearance, or compliance with his demands.
3. Isolation:
  - The abuser’s tactics, like criticizing her loved ones or creating drama, often lead to social withdrawal.
  - Triangulation can alienate her from others, as she’s manipulated into distrusting friends or family who challenge the abuser.
4. Defensive Coping Mechanisms:
  - She may develop maladaptive coping strategies, like dissociation (emotionally detaching to endure the pain), denial (minimizing the abuse), or hyper-rationalization (e.g., “He’s acting this way because his brother is sick.”).
  - In some cases, she might mirror the abuser’s tactics (e.g., becoming manipulative herself) as a survival mechanism, though this is less common.
5. Ambivalence About Leaving:
  - Despite the pain, her love and trauma bond create ambivalence.
Lived Experiences
1. Constant Reality Distortion:
  - Gaslighting makes her question her memories or perceptions.
  - Over time, she may rely on the abuser to define reality, further entrenching her dependency.
2. Emotional Rollercoaster:
  - The relationship oscillates between intense highs (when he’s affectionate or remorseful) and devastating lows (when he’s cruel or dismissive).
3. Loss of Identity:
  - Years of prioritizing the abuser’s needs erode her sense of self. She may lose touch with her values, passions, or goals, feeling like a shadow of her former self.
  - Emotional fraud, such as feigned commitment or love-bombing, leaves her mourning the “person” she thought he was.
4. Physical and Mental Health Decline:
  - Chronic stress from psychological abuse can manifest as physical symptoms (e.g., insomnia, headaches, digestive issues) or mental health struggles (e.g., depression, anxiety, PTSD-like symptoms).
  - She may feel trapped in a cycle of rumination, replaying interactions to make sense of the discrepancies, e.g., he said he loves me, yet he disposed of me as if I was not a human.
5. Shame and Secrecy:
  - The covert nature of psychological abuse makes it hard for her to articulate her pain or seek help.
  - If she tries to share her experiences, she might face minimization (e.g., “It’s not like he hit you”), deepening her isolation.
Long-Term Impact
- Trust Issues: After years of manipulation, she may struggle to trust others.
- Rebuilding Self-Worth: Recovery involves unlearning the abuser’s narrative and reclaiming her reality.
- Resilience and Growth: With support, she can develop post-traumatic growth, gaining clarity, self-compassion, and stronger boundaries, though the journey is nonlinear and challenging.
Notes
- Cultural Context: Her experiences may be shaped by cultural norms (e.g., expectations to prioritize relationships or stigma around leaving abusive partners), which can intensify guilt or isolation.
- Gender Dynamics: While men can also experience this abuse, women are statistically more likely to face psychological violence in heterosexual relationships, often tied to power imbalances.
- Seeking Help: Therapy (e.g., trauma-focused CBT or EMDR), support groups, and resources like domestic violence hotlines can aid recovery. Validating her reality is critical, as gaslighting undermines her ability to trust her own experiences.
Note on Transparency:

In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content, nor has he provided contradictory evidence. See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle
July 7, 2025