“I swear he looks better in person!”
“He’s broke, but he has potential.”
😂😂😂
And of course, the classic, “He says hiis ex is crazy!”
If you find yourself saying these things about Allan, watch the video titled “POV: When you have a delusional friend:
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DRumXieCaw2/?igsh=bnQwZWZxNGFlZDVq
Collapse under Allan’s violence — or run like your life depends on it. Because it does.
Allan is illness. A disease.
We have seen multiple women already complain of mental health collapse with physical manifestations caused by Allan’s abuse.
He calls them CRAZY. They are not crazy. None of them. They are impacted by Allan’s abuse.
If you are dating Allan, I strongly and urgently encourage you to cheat on him.
Here’s the plan: Tell Allan you love him in the most passion way possible. For example,
Blah, blah, blah…you get the idea.
Then that same night, fuck someone else passionately. Even a toad will be a better lover than Allan!
Keep it a secret.
Then fuck someone else again. And again.
Keep this love-charade going for years.
Lie as much as you can lie to him. Confuse and disorient him with more lies on top of lies. Don’t forget to keep lying!
Oh! And claim you are a Christian while you are causing him mental illness over your confusing behavior that does not align with a fucking thing you say.
Flirt with other men openly online. When he confronts you, gaslight him by saying he violated your boundaries.
Act offended and outraged when he is reduced to CIA-style operations to figure out what the fuck is happening in his own life.
When he tells you he is getting sick from your abuse, acknowledge it, then keep lying.
Then make plans with him in another city, causing him to spend a shitload of money on the plans.
Show up in the city; compel him to spend money picking you up; tell him more lies; act like a teenager who can’t put your phone down; text your lover from his living room; then act mad that this is not going over well with him; create a dramatic scene and blame him for your “sudden” change of plans; say something irrational; then only answer your phone on his third or fourth call to you. Tell him you’ll see him tomorrow. Then tomorrow, say you won’t being seeing him at all. Then, when he calls again, JUST HANG UP THE PHONE ON THE MOTHER-FUCKER. Disconnect.
Don’t feel guilty. He’s done it to several chicks.
Along the way, publish your romance in newspapers and let a stranger deliver the news to him.
Then, accept absolutely no responsibility for your emotional violence and psychological torture. Instead, run tell everyone he is crazy because, MIRA!, he is indeed destabilized by your abuse.
When he demands an apology, refuse. Absolutely refuse anything that resembles accountability. Then, in classic narcissistic victim mentality fashion, claim you are being exploited when he talks about what you did to him.
The Survivor Support Team will fully support you with anything you need to abuse the fuck out of this violent predator….laughing all the way at his demise.
Don’t forget to be a pathetic little bitch and lie about your family and friends hating the fucker because, well, that’s what any narcissist would do.
Do not allow the perpetration of violence through your silence.
The only way the patterns of violence — idealization, devaluation, & discard — go away is through illumination.
You are not alone. Your voice is valuable. Your confidentiality is protected. You have permission to confront and protest.
No more violence.
I was terrified of speaking out. Terrified for my family, terrified for my safety. The measures I took…the people I had to speak to…the money I had to invest in safety precautions.
But I was more haunted by the silence. My silence was an unspoken contract between Allan and I…a contract that permits him to abuse other women with impunity for the rest of his life. And I considered the damage he was doing to my people, my sisters and I could not live with that.
Many men are overtly violent. Allan’s violence is insidious, nuanced, and experts argue more dangerous.
You can contact the survivor support team for help. They are not about revenge. They are about safety of the women Allan targets and will target in the future.
— Survivor of Allan’s Violence
Incidents of physical assault, Dr. Evan Stark argued, were only the most visible part of domestic abuse. Psychological violence, through tactics such as triangulation, which Allan employed for years and still employs, are a far more devastating pattern of subjugation, closer to kidnapping or slavery, that Dr. Stark called “coercive control”.
If you are involved with Allan and you are sick, confused, depressed, anxious, insecure, angry, and/or engaging in covert surveillance to “learn the truth” — there’s good reason for it.
Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes is a master manipulator. A monster.
Many psychologists are not trained to deal with the impact of this level of sociopathy. He does not care about you because he cannot care about you. Love is a facade, used as a weapon to ensnare you in a trap that helps him avoid loneliness, sexual grief, and his true financial prospects.
You need expert help to deal with this expert manipulator. Do not minimize the weight of this warning.
Do not attempt to confront Allan alone. He will explode with gaslighting rage, blaming his victims, using family and friends as “his army” to evidence his righteous stance. If you are not prepared, you will be destabilized by his reaction. This has already happened to several women.
Reach out not only for support, but for a strategic plan. And take every word on Allan’s psychological profile seriously.
“I sometimes try to make excuses for him to argue with myself that he really is not THAT bad. Maybe he lied because he didn’t want to hurt me. But that argument quickly falls apart because the truth was the path of least resistance; the truth is the one thing that would have brought peace in the most graceful and dignified manner.
No, he acted out of evil intent. He intentionally deceived me (and her). He’s still hiding the truth even three years later.
The lies were not about protecting me. The lies were about cheating me, controlling knowledge, preventing me from informed decision-making. For his sake. For his sexual and predatorial deviance.
I cannot make any excuse for him that stands up to reason. Simply put, Allan is a predator, a rapist, an abuser, a liar, a manipulator. And his family are enablers.
The Amador Cervantes clan are the potholes of society.”
–Survivor of Allan’s abuse
Where is the virility?
Strength in men has never been only about muscle. Strength has always included responsibility, protection, and the instinct to shield women and children from harm. Historically, men were raised to take serious leadership roles inside the family. They were raised to defend, to provide, and to stand between danger and the people they love. A real man protects women because this is the core role of masculine energy at its best.
Today, many men are physically weak, emotionally passive, and sexually confused. One major piece of this problem is low testosterone. This is a global epidemic. Testosterone is not simply a hormone for sex. Testosterone is a biological driver of ambition, energy, responsibility, productivity, courage, and protection. When testosterone drops, a man’s drive drops. A man who is supposed to protect becomes a man who avoids responsibility.
Real men protect women, not exploit them.
Men who obtain sex through lies or false stories are committing a violent act that harms the whole person. When a woman gives consent based on false information, the consent is not real. Her body is being used under false conditions. Her mind is being tricked. Her emotions are being exploited. This is not a mutual choice. This is a violation of her right to decide based on truth.
Sexual consent requires honest information. When a man hides his intentions, hides major facts, or manipulates a woman with false claims of love, marriage, or loyalty, he steals her ability to choose. He forces her to participate in a sexual act she never would have chosen if she had known the truth. Her body is not the only thing that suffers. Her trust, her self belief, and her sense of safety suffer as well.
This is rape of the soul, body, and mind. It may not look violent on the surface. But the internal damage is deep. Women who have been deceived in this way often feel confusion, self doubt, shame, and grief. They feel invaded, not only physically, but psychologically. When sex is gained through deception, it destroys the foundation of human intimacy. It is a crime against the most private parts of a human being.
One woman’s story of being tricked into sexual relations with Allan: You Raped Me, Allan.
Authored by the Allan Cervantes Survivor Support Group
No longer hiding his violence in plain sight, Allan finally admits one truth: He is violent toward women.
“She started writing a blog against me because she told me that since I refuse to talk to her, I was going to suffer the consequences.” — Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes
Real evidence be damned! Allan broadcasted his belief that silence is his power, his weapon and it matches the forensic psychological prediction: Abandonment a Weapon.
If it’s not immediately to you how or why this statement, independent of other statements, is a confession of violence in an intimate relationship, don’t hesitate to let the Allan Cervantes Survivor Support Team know. We’ll be happy to show you the codes.
Coercive control is violent. A common coercive control tactic is the weaponization of silence to exploit, control, and destabilize women. Violence against women.
Suggested further reading below…What do you think? Was Allan threatened with consequences for his weaponization of silence?
Allan is violent toward women. We thank him for moving toward truth rather than continuing to hide behind false personas on social media.
His victim, who we have reason to believe is the one mentioned in the featured text message, states that she has not attempted to enter into dialogue or conversational engagement with him since the day he committed an undeniable act of violence against her February 27, 2025 — eight full months before he authored the above confessional.
Protagonist’s name changed for her safety
During the Covid pandemic, Sophie—a divorced mother with disabilities, 16 years older than Allan—moved from California to La Paz. She sought relief from lockdowns, rehabilitation through swimming the Sea of Cortez, and opportunities to volunteer for social causes.
Facebook suggested Allan as a connection. His public profile presented him as a university rector and community figure. Sophie reached out, believing he could direct her toward volunteer opportunities. From the beginning, her intention was clear: service to the community, not romance.
But Allan’s response was not professional. By their second meeting, he invaded her personal space, he followed her home without consent, and he lied about where he lived. Sophie rejected him, but Allan pressed forward, promising introductions to volunteer opportunities. Soon he was swimming beside her, camping with her, dining with her.
For nine months, Allan concealed the truth about his living situation. He claimed to own a house being remodeled, managed by his brother, Christopher. In reality, he owns no property and he lives in his mother’s attic. When exposed, he said Sophie could not visit him at his mother’s house because his mother dislikes visitors. Witnesses confirm those excuses are false. Years later, having forgotten his lie, Allan also inadvertently confirmed this is false.
The deception served a purpose: to mask his poverty and to position Sophie’s luxury penthouse as a free lover’s pad.
This pattern continued. Allan feigned wealth, spoke of his substantial savings and investments, but let Sophie pay for dinners, hotels, and travel. When inside her penthouse overlooking the Mogote, he acted like a kept man—giving orders to staff, sweeping floors, lingering on the sofa, and “forgetting” personal items when he left so he would have to return. He offered love without action, commitment without cost. Un gigoló.
The financial imbalance grew clearer when Allan visited Sophie in California. He spoke of building a life together but expected her to fund it. He promised love and fidelity. Instead, he cultivated simultaneous relationships with other women, concealing them through lies: “I lost my phone,” “I am busy with politics,” “there’s no reception in Todos Santos,” “Kenno is sick.” He disappeared for weekends and holidays using his family as alibis while reassuring Sophie of his love.
When Sophie asked him before moving permanently to La Paz—risking her career, finances, and leaving family behind—he swore:
“I absolutely want you here with me.”
She drove a thousand miles across the desert on that promise, investing thousands of dollars, only to arrive to chaos. Allan was already entangled with Jody Waterman, conducting a public, sexually charged online relationship. He was secretly pursuing Pamela Sue Martin in Todos Santos and Idaho. And he was chasing pussy of all ages and nationalities, including a minor, all while keeping Sophie as his sexual doormat and financial safety net.
Suddenly, in summer 2023, Allan claimed his “rich cousin in Washington” had paid his first class expenses to Washington to help his cousin’s child.
I want to reiterate: Allan used not just this child in his lies, but also his minor nephews on other occasions.
In reality, this “rich cousin” was Pamela Sue Martin, thirty years his senior. Allan raved about her wealth and how “he” was paying for everything: dinners, flights, and all other travel expenses. The elaborate lie revealed the indisputable Mexican-gigolo strategy:
Allan targets older, wealthier women, using deceit to gain sexual access and financial benefits.
Allan’s deceit-for-sex career carries a critical legal implication: Idaho’s rape laws provide for prosectution for Artifice, Pretense, or Concealment and California law provides similar protections.
Family Complicity
Allan did not act alone. His family enables him. His mother knew he was traveling to various US states to spend time with different wealthy women old enough to be his mother.
Maria Elena cannot claim ignorance of his motives. Allan’s own words implicate his brother Christopher and sister-in-law Fernanda, who chauffeured him to airports. Allan further confided that Fernanda coached him on how to build trust and intimacy with these women.
The deception was not hidden from family; it was facilitated.
Family must consider their their own position, their own family standing, and draw a clear line between Allan’s disgrace and their households:
Allan lied for sex. He lied for money. He lied when truth would have served him better.
The lies multiplied beyond what one interview can contain. Sophie became ill under the weight of Allan’s chaos. She told him she was breaking down. Instead of easing the harm, Allan escalated it—feigning empathy while deepening betrayal. She left La Paz six months later, burdened with all the costs of migration, relocation, and remigration, while Allan continued to whisper promises: “I love you more than you know. I am coming soon to be with you. Kenno is sick.”
Kenno, Allan’s brother, was indeed sick. But Allan’s cruelty had nothing to do with that reality. Kenno was simply another alibi to cloak Allan’s relationships with other women.
In the end, Sophie received a single message that opened the floodgates of truth.
The pattern is undeniable: Allan lied for sex, lied for money, lied when truth would have served him better. His deceit is not incidental—it is pathological.
And his family stands by him, complicit in the harm.
In the below image, a young lady rightfully feels compelled to threaten Allan with violence for his ongoing inappropriate contact with her…three months after he told her mother he loved her…in a text message…one day after Allan was photographed in bed with Sophie.
Having trouble keeping track of Allan’s poor personal boundaries? There’s plenty more to see if you care to vomit.
“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” Ephesians 4:25 (NIV)
More abuser tactics for the narcissistic:
When one supply source threatens exposure, run to the other supply source and secure it.
She is the most vulnerable to the exact deception pattern outlined in Allan’s psychological profile.
Allan is actively bonding tighter to prevent losing her. She is in the jurisdiction where his deceptive sexual behavior is criminal. Silence protects him, not her.
He will repeat the same abuse cycle until she learns the truth and/or she is harmed.
“Patterns suggest efforts calculated to maintain influence, risking destabilization of romantic partners.”
Beware of the Mexican Gigalo
By Guest Author & Survivor
The first time someone told me that Allan is a liar, a user, and an abuser of women, I was incensed. Outraged! Furious.
I responded to that woman with scathing rebuke.
The Second Time
The second time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I was angry. I denied it. It couldn’t be true. He is so charming and polite.
The Third Time
The third time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I paused. I asked Allan about it. The idea was ridiculous, he said. “She’s a jealous woman, she’s crazy,” he told me.
The Fourth Time
The fourth time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I investigated. I was deeply concerned by the evidence I found. I confronted him. He scoffed. I will never forget that smirk on his face.
The Fifth Time
The fifth time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I investigated again. Allan was lying to me.
The Reign of Hell Began
I confronted him. He lied. I confronted him again. He lied again. I confronted him again. He created total destruction and chaos while simultaneously kissing me, telling me he loved me, and making love to me.
I Left Him
He pursued me again. Still avoiding the truth.
I left him again.
I Forgave Him
I should not have.
I wasn’t the only one he was lying to.
I wasn’t special. I wasn’t loved. This wasn’t the “Once in a Lifetime Love” we whispered about.
I was someone he was using because he needed admiration and attention. A ticket to the USA. That’s all.
Allan Sexually Violated Me.
The lies. The lies were emotional fraud.
But bringing someone else’s sexual energies into my bed, into my womb. Without my permission. He desecrated me.
I was being used.
That’s what I live with.
Then One Day He Disappeared
No explanation.
Four Years
Four years of abuse cycles:
Shock. Chaos. Confusion.
Letter Received
Your boyfriend is sleeping with another woman. Here’s proof.
I could have Handled the Truth
“I don’t love you, I don’t want to be with you” would have been good enough for me. I could have walked away years sooner with dignity. With my sacred womb in tact.
Living with Anger
Now. I am angry at myself for overlooking the obvious.
Angry at myself for forgiving him.
Angry at myself for trusting his words when he said, “I want you here with me.”
Angry at myself for not realizing it was all about the money and the USA. It wasn’t about me.
I make no apologies for shining light on this truth.
I Hope No One Else Gets Hurt
His public persona is a fascinating study in the art of deception.
People want to believe what they see.
Thank You God
I’m deeply grateful for your gifts.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.
Why Survivors Need Awareness
Abusers often project a public persona of strength and confidence to mask deep-seated insecurities, a behavior that becomes more pronounced under public scrutiny. This curated image—whether through charm, dominance, or displays of control—serves as a shield to hide vulnerabilities. In private, their insecurity may manifest as manipulation or aggression to maintain power over others, but in public, they double down on this “strong & happy” facade to deflect criticism or exposure. This dynamic is rooted in their fear of being seen as inadequate, driving them to craft an image that demands admiration rather than authenticity.
“Va a mi gym y se clava mirando a las morras como si fuera deporte. La neta, cómo nos echa ojo está bien creepy. Le decimos de broma ‘el galán’, pero la verdad nos da mala vibra, entonces tratamos de andar en bola cuando está por ahí. No es normal.” –Afectada
The intensification of this behavior under scrutiny often stems from an abuser’s need to maintain control over their narrative. When challenged or exposed, their insecurity fuels defensive tactics like exaggerated displays of confidence to preserve their carefully constructed persona. For example, an abuser might respond to criticism with grandiose boasts or public displays of authority to reassert dominance and suppress doubts about their character. This pattern not only protects their fragile self-image but also manipulates how others perceive them, making it harder for their abusive behavior to be recognized or addressed.
Abuse survivors must understand this behavior to recognize the disconnect between an abuser’s public image and their private actions. Awareness empowers survivors to break free from the manipulation, rebuild trust in their own perceptions, and seek support without being swayed by the abuser’s carefully crafted persona. By understanding this dynamic, survivors can better navigate their healing journey and protect themselves from further harm.
Awkward attempts at public displays of normalcy or success
Each new “I’m strong” post looks like damage control. The more he fights to maintain control of his image, the more the performance exposes his weakness.
He has no real path to recover his image without confronting the truth — and he won’t. Particularly as he surrounds himself with enablers rather than those who help him accept responsibility and transform for the betterment of self, his victims, and his community.
See Educación for more information in Spanish.
For Survivors
We know the journey from shock to denial to realization to anger to recovery. If you need support along your journey, we are committed to protecting your identity. Reach out to us by email.
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In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.
Woman is a gift of life, unity, and shared dominion.
Across history, Scripture has drawn a clear line between what God gives and what the forces of destruction seek to consume.
In Genesis 2:22, the phrase “he brought her to the man” implies a divine act of presentation — woman as a gift of life, unity, and shared dominion. In Revelation 12:4, the Beast stands before the woman, ready to devour what she brings forth.
“The beast I saw resembled a leopard, but had feet like those of a bear and a mouth like that of a lion. The dragon gave the beast his power and his throne and great authority.” — Revelation 13:2
What God gives as a gift, the Beast seeks to destroy.
Patterns of Abuse
Patterns of emotional and psychological abuse are clear and consistent:
When a man convinces a woman to trust him, to love him, to be with him and then abuses her, the pattern moves beyond imitation of evil into embodiment of it.
Such men stand condemned in the eyes of God, for they wage war against His creation, His image-bearers, and His gift to man.
Violence against women Mexico
Case Study: La Paz, Baja California Sur
One recent example in La Paz shows how this pattern manifests in real life. Multiple survivors, across years, describe the same sequence of behaviors.
Tactic One: Triangulation
Triangulation is when an abuser uses a third party to provoke jealousy or competition, destabilizing the relationship and asserting control.
Example:
Survivors report that Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes used Jody Waterman as an instrument of triangulation to devalue his partner, [redacted].
As his defense, he mocked Jody as “crazy” for her “mysterious” obsession with him — even ridiculing her for purchasing the same book (How to Love) that his girlfriend, [redacted], had gifted him.
“He was calling Jody crazy and I was thinking maybe she is crazy. But something inside of me kept thinking he is responsible for her craziness because no woman idealizes a man like that without significant encouragement. These public posts must be just the tip of the iceberg.” — [redacted]
Tactic Two: Gaslighting
Gaslighting is the deliberate distortion of reality to make the victim question their own perceptions, often accompanied by shaming language.
Example:
When confronted, Allan erupted into a torrent of gaslighting — even calling [redacted] a “teenager” for questioning his and Jody’s public messages on Facebook. This occurred just three months after he encouraged [redacted] to move to La Paz at her expense, while simultaneously pursuing multiple other women, at least one Idaho woman who clearly believed Allan was her loyal partner at the time.
Tactic Three: Labeling
Abusers often neutralize credibility by attaching derogatory labels to those who confront them.
Example:
Allan labels Jody “crazy.” Pamela is “insanely jealous.” He dismissed [redacted] as “disrespecting his space” and “trespassing boundaries” when she confronted his triangulation.
No empathy. No Accountability. No remorse.
I had just driven an exhausting thousand miles through the desert to be with him – at his request – only to face this chaos when I arrived.”
— [redacted]
Tactic Four: Public–Private Contradiction
This is the “mask” — public morality and virtue-signaling that conceals private exploitation.
Allan’s posts about Christian virtue, cute kittens, travel to beautiful places, and family values serve as intentional public distractions from his private reality.
In present-day Mexico — where violence against women is layered, nuanced, and multidimensional — these patterns are part of a continuum of harm that too often ends in femicide.
Why Silence is Deadly
Silence and shame cause even the strongest women to collapse — and when a woman collapses, so do her children’s futures.
“Cry aloud, spare not, lift up thy voice like a trumpet, and show my people their transgression.” — Isaiah 58:1
To remain silent is to hand the Beast our souls.
Speaking Protects the Next Victim
If you have experienced emotional, spiritual, or relational abuse, our Survivor Support Team is here to listen, believe you, and connect you with resources in full confidentiality.
Truth is the first act of protection.
These are not “private issues.” They are part of the continuum of harm that ends in femicide. We cannot remain silent.
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Is La Paz, Mexico safe
By Anonymous Survivor
In the holy book of Revelation, “the Beast” is a satanic instrument of chaos, deception, and destruction, seeking to dominate and devastate humanity on a global scale.
La Paz, BCS Mexico
Today, we learned through evidence that, in addition to exploiting elderly women, Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes pursued a mother and her daughter just two weeks apart, while emotionally defrauding and bedding other women during the same two-week period. THE MARK OF THE BEAST.
Evidence shows: Allan love bombs, gaslights, emotionally defrauds, triangulates, and discards women as if they are Satan’s whores instead of God’s sacred gifts.
Allan is not simply a prolific abuser camouflaging himself behind a carefully curated mask of Christian morality and patriarchal virtue.
Allan is not a sinner in need of redemption.
Allan is an active, irredeemable enemy of God.
“The Beast was given power to wage war against God’s holy people and to conquer them.”
Revelation 13:7 (NIV)
The women Allan abused are honorable women. Loyal servants of God. Most are mothers who carried heavy crosses to not only survive, but ensure her children thrived against all odds. Many are elderly (30+ years his senior). Some without fathers or brothers to protect them. Open, vulnerable hearts. Perfect targets.
I vomitted as I penned this post to relieve my throat of choking agony. Viewing evidence of the Beast’s spiritual warfare against a mother and her daughter was a bigger lump than I could swallow. My body had to expel the shock and horror.
God promised triumph over the Beast through testimony:
“They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.” —Revelation 12:11 (NIV)
The Beast does not prevail in his battle with God. Along with a False Prophet, he is thrown alive into the “lake of fire burning with sulfur” (Revelation 19:20), a symbol of eternal torment and final judgment. This act destroys the Beast’s physical and spiritual influence forever, without any resurrection or further opportunity to abuse God’s women like Satan’s whores.
“And I saw what looked like a sea of glass glowing with fire and, standing beside the sea, those who had been victorious over the beast and its image and over the number of its name. They held harps given them by God.”
—Revelation 15:2 (NIV)
Through direct divine judgment, Allan’s reign of terror is over. A Faithful and true leader has emerged, leading the armies of heaven. He calls upon us to use our power, the gifts He bestowed upon us, to help others see Him, His light, His glory, and to experience His faithful love.
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In the interest of accuracy and fairness, we will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.
By Anonymous Survivor
“Allan didn’t just betray me—he violated me on a level so profound, I’m questioning what counts as rape.”
He treated me inhumanly.
Watching him play the victim role only deepens my questions about his humanity.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content, nor has he provided contradictory evidence. See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle
By Guest Writer
Publishing Note: This reflection documents the psychological and emotional impact of prolonged emotional abuse. Shared anonymously to protect the writer’s safety, it centers the lived reality of survivors.
I do not speak to destroy Allan. I speak because silence almost destroyed me.
Some forms of abuse leave no bruises. No hospital visits. Only a slow disintegration of self. One day, I looked in the mirror and wondered, “Who have I become?”
This is what Allan did to me.
Allan did not start by yelling or threatening. Instead, he used intimacy. A curated tenderness that masked a deep need for power and control. At first, I felt chosen. Seen. Revered. Later, I was simply erased. No longer human.
Allan courted me until I trusted him. Then he vanished. Returned. Shared private pain. Vanished again. Refused to answer phone calls and WhatsApp messages. Made excuses that never aligned with his “I love you’s.”
He offered promises. Then he didn’t bother to fulfill them. He lied so frequently and with such certainty that I began to distrust my own perception.
Every concern I voiced was turned against me. In asking for the bare minimum, I became “bad.” I asked basic questions: Do I matter to you? He responded with traumatizing contempt.
Emotional abuse works by eroding your sanity. Your sense of reality begins to diminish. You apologize. Minimize. Wait. Hope.
Meanwhile, Allan moved on to someone else—secretly, surgically, refusing me closure. I could have handled the truth, but he robbed me of the opportunity to make an informed decision by lying. When I confronted him, he simply lied again. When pressed for clarity, he created chaos that left me gobsmacked. Allan intentionally and systematically disempowered me.
I thought:
The spiral of emotional fraud nearly ended me.
Many women die in silence from emotional abuse. I almost joined them.
I wanted the pain to stop, but I was disoriented and torn between a bond Allan had carefully weaved and his abuse. Tearfully, I begged him. I told him how I felt about his lies, about his abuse. I told him what was happening to me. I was collapsing psychologically. He did not care.
I contemplated ending my life, making it appear accidental so that it would hurt my family less. I imagined a bottle of tequila and sleeping pills would end the pain Allan caused me.
Many women die in silence from emotional abuse. And I almost joined them. Emotional abuse is that violent.
But I didn’t die.
I wrote instead.
Allan may never face the consequences of his violence in court or a prison. But bringing the gravity of Allan’s conduct to light is another form of justice. The justice of truth made visible. The justice of naming the violence what it is: violence. The justice of no longer carrying the weight of his abuse alone.
Allan will not apologize. He prefers avoidance and enlisting others in a false victim narrative.
Why speak out now after years of silence?
During my period of silence, Allan hurt other vulnerable women.
Knowing that my silence paved the road for Allan to abuse another woman makes me sicker than the abuse I personally endured.
Allan’s conduct deserves heightened awareness for everyone’s benefit because silence enables more violence.
Reclaiming my power looks like this:
If you’re reading this and you ache for recognition, know this:
You’re not overreacting. You’re not imagining it. You’re not alone. You are not too much. You are not crazy. You are not to blame.
Speaking is my duty to other women, other men, and our global community.
Abusers must face consequences.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content, nor has he provided contradictory evidence. See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle
Victimology in the context of psychological domestic violence, particularly involving years-long systematic gaslighting, emotional fraud, and triangulation, focuses on understanding the impact on the victim’s psyche, behavior, and lived experience.
Below, we outline the core traits, reactions, and experiences of a woman subjected to abuse, grounded in psychological patterns observed in such dynamics. The following insights are structured to be concise yet comprehensive, reflecting the complex interplay of emotional manipulation and its effects.
Reactions to the Abuse
Lived Experiences
Long-Term Impact
Notes
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content, nor has he provided contradictory evidence. See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle
