Tag: Mexico

  • Desgracia

    Esta mañana me desperté con pesadillas sobre lo que Allan Alexander Amador Crevantes me hizo durante años. Mentiras, manipulación psicológica, abusos sexuales, traición a mi confianza, descubrir que es un gigoló, un embaucador, un narcisista. – Superviviente del abuso de Allan

    Allan Amador Cervantes
    Allan Amador Cervantes
  • How to Abuse A Woman: Step 1

    The Anatomy of Weaponized Love

    Weaponized love is not gender-specific, though it often follows patriarchal scripts. 

    It operates by exploiting our most sacred human need: to belong.
    It sounds like this (actual text messages from Allan in 2024):

    • “Since the day I met you, our connection is even beyond ourselves. I love you and I cherish and relish all of your being.”
    • “I always felt it and so to this day, as well as I love you since the very first time I saw you to this day, with an indescribable strength and passion.”
    • “I am grateful for your love and kindness. I feel you, I always have. I love you, regardless of time and distance, you are with me and I am with you, darling.”
    • “You are so important and valuable to me, beyond what I can express. I love you deeply and passionately.”

    The messages all look like a normal love affair, right?

    The author, Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes, was intimately involved with another woman at the time he sent these messages. Additionally, at this time, he was leading a third elderly woman to believe she was his love interest. And also inviting two other elderly woman on dates.

    Weaponized attachment mirrors narcissistic abuse cycles (idealize-devalue-discard).

    This is why it is important to view domestic violence in context. As stand alone messages, there is no alarm in an established trusting relationship. In context, we see a psychopathology and serious harm to the target.

    Allan Amador Cervantes
    Allan Amador Cervantes

    The next step follows the typical abuse cycle and involves devaluation and discard. See Pattern Evidence & Case Study for live example.

  • Phallic Panic

    Male Sexual Violence and the Terror of Submission

    Men’s sexual violence against women often stems from a fragile masculine identity that equates dominance with worth. When a man feels powerless in broader life—economically, socially, or emotionally—he may compulsively assert control over a woman via abuse tactics to reclaim the sensation of potency. Rape becomes a desperate ritual to prove “I am not the one who can be penetrated, violated, or reduced”; in other words, the terror of being dominated himself is displaced onto her. The erect phallus weaponizes the very vulnerability he refuses to feel.

    This dynamic reveals a hidden homoerotic panic at the core of patriarchal violence: the male perpetrator unconsciously fears that without absolute supremacy over women, he risks occupying the “feminized” position of the dominated. Sexual violation is therefore less about desire for the woman than about terror of becoming her—of being entered, owned, or erased. By violating her boundaries, he symbolically castrates his own dread of submission, yet the act only deepens the cycle of shame and compensatory brutality. True liberation for men lies not in dominating others, but in tolerating the vulnerability that dominance was meant to obliterate.

    Allan Amador Cervatnes
    Allan Amador Cervatnes

    Sigmund Freud’s psychoanalytic framework links sexual violence to unresolved Oedipal conflicts and primal aggression. In Totem and Taboo (1913), he posits that patriarchal societies originate from sons’ murderous rivalry with the father, culminating in guilt-driven totemism. Applied to rape, the perpetrator reenacts this parricide symbolically: violating a woman displaces castrating anxiety onto her, warding off the father’s imagined retribution.

    You raped me, Allan.

  • Insecure Masculinity

    Traditional masculinity bundles three pillars: protector (solves threats), provider (secures resources), and stoic enforcer (controls emotional space). Allan’s claims target all three: He claims he was enlisted to help with an ex-husband (he wasn’t); he claims he was in a position to support a woman (he wasn’t); and he claims he maintained dominance through silence (abuse, see Weaponizing Silence).

    When the three pillars of masculinity are falsified, as Allan did, the performance signals insecure masculinity—a man borrowing cultural scripts he hasn’t earned. This often stems from anxious attachment or narcissistic fragility: the louder the boast, the deeper the deficit. See Pattern Evidence & Case Record for further details.

    Escalation risk: Men who overclaim competence retaliate when exposed. Silence-withdrawal fails → expect blame-shifting, gaslighting, or aggressive reassertion, such as you see in his claims.

    Allan Amador Cervantes
    Allan Amador Cervantes

    Mexico Cultural Lens: Machismo scripts amplify provider/enforcer roles. A man failing both yet still performing them, as he does in his claims, may signal economic insecurity disguised as dominance—common in contexts where emotional safety nets are weak, which we see in his use of family and friends to bolster his claims of hatred toward the truth-teller.

    Bottom Line

    Falsified claims don’t just reveal Allan’s weakness—they expose a strategic identity built on his vulnerabilities. Treat it as a red flag for manipulation, not a masculinity to rehabilitate.

    Disengage early.

  • Victim of the Victim

    Allan Amador Cervantes claims she told him “since I refuse to talk to her, I was going to suffer the consequences.”

    The full response to Allan’s character abusive text message, shown below, can be found at Pattern Evidence & Case Record.

    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes
    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes

    Delineation:

    1) The fear of suffering is self-referential

    Allan does not talk about harm done to her.
    Allan talks about harm that could be done to him.

    That tells you his primary mental focus is personal threat, not guilt or empathy.

    2)Allan’s suffering is conceptualized as a punishment for not complying

    In his frame:
    His crime is not rape or abandonment.
    His crime is not giving her continued access or attention.

    This is a narcissistic reframing:
    “Her pain is not real. My pain is the real pain, caused by her.”

    3) Allan implies his suffering is inflicted

    Not emerging from his own choices.
    Not emerging from the original wrongdoing.
    It is “done to him.”

    That is a self-victim narrative.
    It removes agency.
    It removes accountability.

    4) That phrasing reveals his psychology

    A. Allan feels persecuted
    B. Allan cannot imagine her as a legitimate victim
    C. Allan interprets exposure as “suffering” imposed on him

    This is the inversion move.

    Allan cannot conceptualize that the consequences he fears flow from his own behavior (rape, deception, lying, triangulation).
    His mind must externalize suffering as something a woman is doing to him.

    This is textbook identity-preservation.
    If Allan admits “I harmed someone,” his identity collapses.

    So he narrates: “She wants to make me suffer.”
    Because psychologically, that is the only version he can survive.

    Full analysis of Allan’s text message here.

  • Coincidence

    Allan alleges they want HIS financial support! Allan’s claim reflects an absurd view of reality, radically misaligned with the evidence he himself presents.

    The truth speaks: Allan prostitutes himself to elderly American women. The motive is clear.

    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes
    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes
  • When Poverty Creates Predators

    The Tragedy of Romance Fraud in La Paz

    Poverty is not funny. Poverty in places like La Paz is heartbreaking. Many people in La Paz told me the truth: opportunity is extremely small. People work hard, for very low pay, and most will never escape their situation. When we see a poor Mexican man, age 44, romantically chasing women 30 or 35 years older, this behavior does not come from love. It comes from desperation, and lack of opportunity.

    However, the problem becomes serious when deception begins. Men like Allan do not show the truth. Allan posts images standing next to someone else’s car or home. Allan speaks in vague language to make the public think he is some swag dude traveling the world. Allan hides the fact that his lifestyle is not his own, but that of an older woman. His entire online image is a false identity, down to the strong arm emoji.

    Allan is not harmless. Allan is a fraud. Allan and men like him are not asking for charity. They are creating a false self in order to trap a woman with more resources. They want a green card, housing, money, or a way out.

    He contributes a little in the beginning until his credit card maxes out. Then the woman pays the cost. Allan hopes to gain freedom.

    Allan Amador Cervantes
    Allan Amador Cervantes

    Women must recognize this pattern and protect themselves. The danger is not only financial loss. The danger is the emotional impact of deeply intimate deception.

    In the image below, we have Allan’s social media posts at Pamela Sue Martin’s ranch. And without a touch of editing, we present his true home, his true view.

    The disparity between his real life and the life he presents and is chasing is surreal.

  • Liar Liar Liar

    La Paz, Baja California Sur, Mexico

    Allan Amador Cervantes

    Allan Amador Cervantes
    Allan Amador Cervantes
  • Fraud in Intimacy: Strategy for Personal Gain

    Fraud is the act of gaining benefit by lying.

    When a man, such as Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes, lies to a woman to get sex, money, housing, travel, or immigration advantage, he is committing fraud. He is gaining valuable things from her under false terms. He is presenting himself as something he is not. He promises things, including love, he never intends to give. This is not “playing around.” This is not romance. This is not misunderstanding. This is deliberate deception for personal gain.

    Allan Amador Cervantes
    Allan Amador Cervantes

    Fraud in business is punished. Fraud in banking is punished. Fraud in government documents is punished. Yet when fraud happens in intimate relationships, people tend to ignore the financial and emotional loss. They call it “bad breakup.” They call it “dating mistake.” But it is the same category of harm. A woman gives time, money, gifts, care, and sex based on false information. He receives profit. She receives loss. That is the definition of fraud.

    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes is a fraud.

    Calling it “love” does not make it less criminal. Calling it “relationship issues” does not make it less serious. Women are targeted every day by men like Allan who want financial access without effort.

    Allan grooms victims with fake romance. Allan manipulates women to give resources they would never give if they knew the truth.

    This is fraud, and society needs to treat it as fraud, because it steals from women in every dimension of their lives.

  • Rape by Deception: Lies as a Weapon Against Women

    Men who obtain sex through lies or false stories are committing a violent act that harms the whole person. When a woman gives consent based on false information, the consent is not real. Her body is being used under false conditions. Her mind is being tricked. Her emotions are being exploited. This is not a mutual choice. This is a violation of her right to decide based on truth.

    Allan Amador Cervantes
    Allan Amador Cervantes

    Sexual consent requires honest information. When a man hides his intentions, hides major facts, or manipulates a woman with false claims of love, marriage, or loyalty, he steals her ability to choose. He forces her to participate in a sexual act she never would have chosen if she had known the truth. Her body is not the only thing that suffers. Her trust, her self belief, and her sense of safety suffer as well.

    This is rape of the soul, body, and mind. It may not look violent on the surface. But the internal damage is deep. Women who have been deceived in this way often feel confusion, self doubt, shame, and grief. They feel invaded, not only physically, but psychologically. When sex is gained through deception, it destroys the foundation of human intimacy. It is a crime against the most private parts of a human being.

    One woman’s story of being tricked into sexual relations with Allan: You Raped Me, Allan.

  • The Gigolo in His Mother’s Attic

    Protagonist’s name changed for her safety

    During the Covid pandemic, Sophie—a divorced mother with disabilities, 16 years older than Allan—moved from California to La Paz. She sought relief from lockdowns, rehabilitation through swimming the Sea of Cortez, and opportunities to volunteer for social causes.

    La Paz Baja California Sur
    Allan targets disabled woman trying to rehabilitate in Sea of Cortez

    Facebook suggested Allan as a connection. His public profile presented him as a university rector and community figure. Sophie reached out, believing he could direct her toward volunteer opportunities. From the beginning, her intention was clear: service to the community, not romance.

    But Allan’s response was not professional. By their second meeting, he invaded her personal space, he followed her home without consent, and he lied about where he lived. Sophie rejected him, but Allan pressed forward, promising introductions to volunteer opportunities. Soon he was swimming beside her, camping with her, dining with her. 

    For nine months, Allan concealed the truth about his living situation. He claimed to own a house being remodeled, managed by his brother, Christopher. In reality, he owns no property and he lives in his mother’s attic. When exposed, he said Sophie could not visit him at his mother’s house because his mother dislikes visitors. Witnesses confirm those excuses are false. Years later, having forgotten his lie, Allan also inadvertently confirmed this is false.

    The deception served a purpose: to mask his poverty and to position Sophie’s luxury penthouse as a free lover’s pad.

    This pattern continued. Allan feigned wealth, spoke of his substantial savings and investments, but let Sophie pay for dinners, hotels, and travel. When inside her penthouse overlooking the Mogote, he acted like a kept man—giving orders to staff, sweeping floors, lingering on the sofa, and “forgetting” personal items when he left so he would have to return. He offered love without action, commitment without cost. Un gigoló.

    The financial imbalance grew clearer when Allan visited Sophie in California. He spoke of building a life together but expected her to fund it. He promised love and fidelity. Instead, he cultivated simultaneous relationships with other women, concealing them through lies: “I lost my phone,” “I am busy with politics,” “there’s no reception in Todos Santos,” “Kenno is sick.” He disappeared for weekends and holidays using his family as alibis while reassuring Sophie of his love.

    When Sophie asked him before moving permanently to La Paz—risking her career, finances, and leaving family behind—he swore:

    “I absolutely want you here with me.”

    She drove a thousand miles across the desert on that promise, investing thousands of dollars, only to arrive to chaos. Allan was already entangled with Jody Waterman, conducting a public, sexually charged online relationship. He was secretly pursuing Pamela Sue Martin in Todos Santos and Idaho. And he was chasing pussy of all ages and nationalities, including a minor, all while keeping Sophie as his sexual doormat and financial safety net.

    Suddenly, in summer 2023, Allan claimed his “rich cousin in Washington” had paid his first class expenses to Washington to help his cousin’s child.

    I want to reiterate: Allan used not just this child in his lies, but also his minor nephews on other occasions.

    In reality, this “rich cousin” was Pamela Sue Martin, thirty years his senior. Allan raved about her wealth and how “he” was paying for everything: dinners, flights, and all other travel expenses. The elaborate lie revealed the indisputable Mexican-gigolo strategy:

    Allan targets older, wealthier women, using deceit to gain sexual access and financial benefits.

    Allan’s deceit-for-sex career carries a critical legal implication: Idaho’s rape laws provide for prosectution for Artifice, Pretense, or Concealment and California law provides similar protections.

    Violence La Paz Baja California Sur
    Un Gigoló Méxicano, Estafador Extraordinario

    Family Complicity

    Allan did not act alone. His family enables him. His mother knew he was traveling to various US states to spend time with different wealthy women old enough to be his mother.

    Maria Elena cannot claim ignorance of his motives. Allan’s own words implicate his brother Christopher and sister-in-law Fernanda, who chauffeured him to airports. Allan further confided that Fernanda coached him on how to build trust and intimacy with these women.

    The deception was not hidden from family; it was facilitated.

    Family must consider their their own position, their own family standing, and draw a clear line between Allan’s disgrace and their households:

    • Protege a tu propia familia: tu matrimonio, tus hijos, la reputación de tu hogar.
    • No te dejes atrapar por la falsedad de Allan.
    • Elimina la contaminación: asegúrate de que tu rama del árbol genealógico no se vea mancillada por el engaño y la deshonra de Allan.

    Allan lied for sex. He lied for money. He lied when truth would have served him better.

    The lies multiplied beyond what one interview can contain. Sophie became ill under the weight of Allan’s chaos. She told him she was breaking down. Instead of easing the harm, Allan escalated it—feigning empathy while deepening betrayal. She left La Paz six months later, burdened with all the costs of migration, relocation, and remigration, while Allan continued to whisper promises: “I love you more than you know. I am coming soon to be with you. Kenno is sick.”

    Kenno, Allan’s brother, was indeed sick. But Allan’s cruelty had nothing to do with that reality. Kenno was simply another alibi to cloak Allan’s relationships with other women.

    In the end, Sophie received a single message that opened the floodgates of truth.

    The pattern is undeniable: Allan lied for sex, lied for money, lied when truth would have served him better. His deceit is not incidental—it is pathological.

    And his family stands by him, complicit in the harm.

    In the below image, a young lady rightfully feels compelled to threaten Allan with violence for his ongoing inappropriate contact with her…three months after he told her mother he loved her…in a text message…one day after Allan was photographed in bed with Sophie.

    Allan Amador Cervantes

    Having trouble keeping track of Allan’s poor personal boundaries? There’s plenty more to see if you care to vomit.

    “Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” Ephesians 4:25 (NIV)

  • Until She Learns the Truth

    More abuser tactics for the narcissistic:

    When one supply source threatens exposure, run to the other supply source and secure it.

    She is the most vulnerable to the exact deception pattern outlined in Allan’s psychological profile.

    Allan is actively bonding tighter to prevent losing her. She is in the jurisdiction where his deceptive sexual behavior is criminal. Silence protects him, not her.

    He will repeat the same abuse cycle until she learns the truth and/or she is harmed.

    “Patterns suggest efforts calculated to maintain influence, risking destabilization of romantic partners.”

    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes

    Beware of the Mexican Gigalo

  • The First Time

    By Guest Author & Survivor

    The first time someone told me that Allan is a liar, a user, and an abuser of women, I was incensed. Outraged! Furious.

    I responded to that woman with scathing rebuke.

    The Second Time

    The second time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I was angry. I denied it. It couldn’t be true. He is so charming and polite.

    The Third Time

    The third time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I paused. I asked Allan about it. The idea was ridiculous, he said. “She’s a jealous woman, she’s crazy,” he told me.

    The Fourth Time

    The fourth time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I investigated. I was deeply concerned by the evidence I found. I confronted him. He scoffed. I will never forget that smirk on his face.

    Allan Amador Cervantes

    The Fifth Time

    The fifth time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I investigated again. Allan was lying to me.

    The Reign of Hell Began

    I confronted him. He lied. I confronted him again. He lied again. I confronted him again. He created total destruction and chaos while simultaneously kissing me, telling me he loved me, and making love to me.

    I Left Him

    He pursued me again. Still avoiding the truth.

    I left him again.

    I Forgave Him

    I should not have.

    I wasn’t the only one he was lying to.

    I wasn’t special. I wasn’t loved. This wasn’t the “Once in a Lifetime Love” we whispered about.

    I was someone he was using because he needed admiration and attention. A ticket to the USA. That’s all.

    Allan Sexually Violated Me.

    The lies. The lies were emotional fraud.

    But bringing someone else’s sexual energies into my bed, into my womb. Without my permission. He desecrated me.

    I feel raped.

    I was being used.

    That’s what I live with.

    Then One Day He Disappeared

    No explanation.

    Four Years

    Four years of abuse cycles:

    • idealization — emotional fraud & love bombing: I love you more than you know and I can’t wait to build memories together; our connection is even beyond ourselves. I cherish and relish all of your being; the purest feeling for one another; I always felt it; I love you since the very first time I saw you with an indescribable strength and passion; I am grateful for your love and kindness. I love you, regardless time and distance you are with me and I am with you, darling.; You are so important and valuable to me, beyond I can express. I love you deeply and passionately; We are building strong and deep memories, as well as pages in our lives. All I need and want is you❤️‍🔥; I am fully grateful for having found each other; how important you are in my life and all what you brought to me since I saw you that first time. You are my once in a lifetime.The intensity of my feelings for you is something never experienced before, the force that attracts me to you is so deep, authentic, and strong that stands on its own feet; I don’t want to be apart from you. You can count on me and I can rely on you for whatsoever. We were as two persons sharing the most valuable resources we have that are time and affection, and what I want always to be the foundation of our relationship no matter how it is named, expressed or lived, while HONEST. The best days of my life and it is because you were there, with me, renewing my heart and giving me what you are in the most pure sense of your existence. I LOVE YOU, I really mean it.
    • devaluing — lies, triangulation, gaslighting (You cannot come with me; I was working; I need to cancel our weekend plans -my brother needs me to drive him to Todos Santos; my nephews want me to take them to dinner; I lost my phone in Todos Santos over the weekend so I couldn’t call/text; my mother is planning dinner, she doesn’t like people so you are not invited; an important political figure is in town so I need to cancel weekend plans; I’m translating for court at night; I am in Washington (Idaho) with my cousin (Pamela Sue Martin), I will call you tomorrow, I will call you later, how dare you confront me about such a thing; stop asking me “what time!”; I’m not talking to you about how I feel!)
    • discarding — click

    Shock. Chaos. Confusion.

    Letter Received

    Your boyfriend is sleeping with another woman. Here’s proof.

    I could have Handled the Truth

    “I don’t love you, I don’t want to be with you” would have been good enough for me. I could have walked away years sooner with dignity. With my sacred womb in tact.

    Living with Anger

    Now. I am angry at myself for overlooking the obvious.

    Angry at myself for forgiving him.

    Angry at myself for trusting his words when he said, “I want you here with me.”

    Angry at myself for not realizing it was all about the money and the USA. It wasn’t about me.

    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes is Evil

    I make no apologies for shining light on this truth.

    I Hope No One Else Gets Hurt

    His public persona is a fascinating study in the art of deception.

    People want to believe what they see.

    4000 Fake Followers
    4000 Fake Followers

    Thank You God

    I’m deeply grateful for your gifts.

    Note on Transparency:
    In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.

  • Facade of Strength & Joy

    Why Survivors Need Awareness

    Abusers often project a public persona of strength and confidence to mask deep-seated insecurities, a behavior that becomes more pronounced under public scrutiny. This curated image—whether through charm, dominance, or displays of control—serves as a shield to hide vulnerabilities. In private, their insecurity may manifest as manipulation or aggression to maintain power over others, but in public, they double down on this “strong & happy” facade to deflect criticism or exposure. This dynamic is rooted in their fear of being seen as inadequate, driving them to craft an image that demands admiration rather than authenticity.

    “Va a mi gym y se clava mirando a las morras como si fuera deporte. La neta, cómo nos echa ojo está bien creepy. Le decimos de broma ‘el galán’, pero la verdad nos da mala vibra, entonces tratamos de andar en bola cuando está por ahí. No es normal.” –Afectada

    Violence La Paz Baja California Sur
    Social Media Overcompensation for Fragile Pride.

    The intensification of this behavior under scrutiny often stems from an abuser’s need to maintain control over their narrative. When challenged or exposed, their insecurity fuels defensive tactics like exaggerated displays of confidence to preserve their carefully constructed persona. For example, an abuser might respond to criticism with grandiose boasts or public displays of authority to reassert dominance and suppress doubts about their character. This pattern not only protects their fragile self-image but also manipulates how others perceive them, making it harder for their abusive behavior to be recognized or addressed.

    Abuse survivors must understand this behavior to recognize the disconnect between an abuser’s public image and their private actions. Awareness empowers survivors to break free from the manipulation, rebuild trust in their own perceptions, and seek support without being swayed by the abuser’s carefully crafted persona. By understanding this dynamic, survivors can better navigate their healing journey and protect themselves from further harm.

    Awkward attempts at public displays of normalcy or success

    Each new “I’m strong” post looks like damage control.  The more he fights to maintain control of his image, the more the performance exposes his weakness.

    He has no real path to recover his image without confronting the truth — and he won’t. Particularly as he surrounds himself with enablers rather than those who help him accept responsibility and transform for the betterment of self, his victims, and his community.

    See Educación for more information in Spanish.

    For Survivors
    We know the journey from shock to denial to realization to anger to recovery. If you need support along your journey, we are committed to protecting your identity. Reach out to us by email.

    Note on Transparency:
    In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.

  • The Hidden Role of Enablers in Abuse

    In every public case of abuse, there is at least one figure in the shadows — the enabler. She is not the headline. She is not the accused. Yet she advises him when to fight, when to hide, when to smile for the cameras.

    From years of survivor advocacy, we know these “strategic advisors” often believe they are helping. In truth, they become part of the cycle that keeps abuse unchallenged.

    They aim to help act as strategic advisors line-by-line. Sometimes they carry their own unresolved history — bitterness toward another woman, misguided loyalty, co-dependence, or the deep need to feel indispensable to a man in crisis.

    More concerning, however, is the lack of qualifications in this highly specialized arena and lack of insight into deeply buried, carefully guarded savage secrets.

    Yet simultaneously, without specialized qualifications and without the knowledge she needs to make informed decisions, she is called upon to advise, colsole, co-analyze, and defend. She is an enabler enabling a pathological abuser who cannot be satiated in a tormented intergenerational web of pursue-catch-conquer-discard. Viewing them all–the young, the elderly, the disabled–as Satan’s offering to him. Shrouded in family complicity.

    While hundreds of enabler variations exist, the abuser’s enabler normally, though exceptions exists, fall into one of five common traits, which we highlight in the image below.

    Abuse Enablers
    Abuse Enablers

    We encourage those in this position to ask themselves:

    • Am I helping him avoid accountability?
    • Am I protecting his reputation at the cost of my own?
    • Am I prepared to be remembered as the one who shielded a man from the consequences of devouring the innocent?

    Silence is not neutral. Support is not harmless. And the “loyal helper” is never truly invisible.

    See “Educación” for a Spanish summary on enablers and their role in perpetuating harm.

    For Survivors
    We know the journey from shock to denial to realization to anger to recovery. If you need support along your journey, we are committed to protecting your identity. Reach out to us by email.

    For Enablers
    If you recognize yourself in these patterns, the most powerful thing you can do is step away, privately and permanently. You cannot save him without sacrificing your own integrity — and history remembers both the abuser and the one who stood beside him. Contact our Survivor Support Team if you need help.

    Note on Transparency:
    In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.


  • The Mask: How Abusers Use Public Image to Disarm You

    When public image is under threat, abusive personalities often pivot into “wholesome overload” — flooding social media with symbols of innocence, purity, and moral authority. Pets. Bible verses. Family rhetoric.

    This is not harmless. It is calculated. The performance says, “Trust me. I am gentle, safe, and righteous.” Meanwhile, the masked persona remains unchanged — sometimes existing in plain sight on other platforms.

    Kittens to Kinks

    This week offered a textbook example: one account displaying images crafted to inspire trust; another filled with connections to female sexual objectification. This contrast is not accidental. Contradiction is the strategy. It keeps victims doubting their own instincts, asking themselves, “Could someone so kind really be harmful?”

    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes
    The mask on Instagram: A symbol of gentleness and virtue, chosen to evoke trust and affection.
    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes
    The reality on X: Public alignment with content built on female sexual objectification.

    Two platforms. Two stories. One truth.

    We love adorable black kittens as much as anyone else. While we strongly encourage pets as a way to experience love, we are just as strongly concerned that carefully curated public imagery is an extension of the double-life playbook: Soft fur in public, hard-core in private.

    If Allan has a new kitten, we wish he and the kitten all the best. But we fear the animal could be used as a prop in efforts to curate a more likable public image.

    4000 Fake Followers

    Survivor Support Team

    Survivors deserve truth, safety, and dignity. If you have experienced emotional, spiritual, or relational abuse, our Survivor Support Team is here to listen, believe you, and connect you with resources to rebuild your life. Contact us in complete confidentiality.

    Pornography La Paz Baja California Sur Mexico

    Note on Transparency:
    In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.

    See: The Avoidance–Image Management Cycle

  • Devour Her Like a Lion: A Case Study in Triangulation & Gaslighting

    Woman is a gift of life, unity, and shared dominion.

    Across history, Scripture has drawn a clear line between what God gives and what the forces of destruction seek to consume.

    In Genesis 2:22, the phrase “he brought her to the man” implies a divine act of presentation — woman as a gift of life, unity, and shared dominion. In Revelation 12:4, the Beast stands before the woman, ready to devour what she brings forth.

    “The beast I saw resembled a leopard, but had feet like those of a bear and a mouth like that of a lion. The dragon gave the beast his power and his throne and great authority.” — Revelation 13:2

    What God gives as a gift, the Beast seeks to destroy.

    Patterns of Abuse

    Patterns of emotional and psychological abuse are clear and consistent:

    1. Idealization — overwhelming attention, promises, and moral posturing.
    2. Devaluation — gaslighting, triangulation, lying, public humiliation, emotional sabotage.
    3. Discard — withdrawal, chaos, ghosting, and refusal to provide truthful discourse.

    When a man convinces a woman to trust him, to love him, to be with him and then abuses her, the pattern moves beyond imitation of evil into embodiment of it.

    Such men stand condemned in the eyes of God, for they wage war against His creation, His image-bearers, and His gift to man.

    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes
    Executing the Beast’s mandate to corrupt innocence, desecrate love, and annihilate life at its source.

    Case Study: La Paz, Baja California Sur

    One recent example in La Paz shows how this pattern manifests in real life. Multiple survivors, across years, describe the same sequence of behaviors.

    Tactic One: Triangulation

    Triangulation is when an abuser uses a third party to provoke jealousy or competition, destabilizing the relationship and asserting control.

    Example:
    Survivors report that Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes used Jody Waterman as an instrument of triangulation to devalue his partner, [redacted].

    As his defense, he mocked Jody as “crazy” for her “mysterious” obsession with him — even ridiculing her for purchasing the same book (How to Love) that his girlfriend, [redacted], had gifted him.

    Jody Waterman
    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes

    “He was calling Jody crazy and I was thinking maybe she is crazy. But something inside of me kept thinking he is responsible for her craziness because no woman idealizes a man like that without significant encouragement. These public posts must be just the tip of the iceberg.” — [redacted]

    Tactic Two: Gaslighting

    Gaslighting is the deliberate distortion of reality to make the victim question their own perceptions, often accompanied by shaming language.

    Example:
    When confronted, Allan erupted into a torrent of gaslighting — even calling [redacted] a “teenager” for questioning his and Jody’s public messages on Facebook. This occurred just three months after he encouraged [redacted] to move to La Paz at her expense, while simultaneously pursuing multiple other women, at least one Idaho woman who clearly believed Allan was her loyal partner at the time.

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    [redacted] clarified Allan’s allegation that she did contain herself and talk “in front of him” about it, so his attack served as additional layers of painful gaslilghting.

    Tactic Three: Labeling

    Abusers often neutralize credibility by attaching derogatory labels to those who confront them.

    Example:

    Allan labels Jody “crazy.” Pamela is “insanely jealous.” He dismissed [redacted] as “disrespecting his space” and “trespassing boundaries” when she confronted his triangulation.

    No empathy. No Accountability. No remorse.

    I had just driven an exhausting thousand miles through the desert to be with him – at his request – only to face this chaos when I arrived.”

    — [redacted]

    Jody Waterman

    Tactic Four: Public–Private Contradiction

    This is the “mask” — public morality and virtue-signaling that conceals private exploitation.

    Allan’s posts about Christian virtue, cute kittens, travel to beautiful places, and family values serve as intentional public distractions from his private reality.

    In present-day Mexico — where violence against women is layered, nuanced, and multidimensional — these patterns are part of a continuum of harm that too often ends in femicide.

    Why Silence is Deadly

    Silence and shame cause even the strongest women to collapse — and when a woman collapses, so do her children’s futures.

    “Cry aloud, spare not, lift up thy voice like a trumpet, and show my people their transgression.” — Isaiah 58:1

    To remain silent is to hand the Beast our souls.

    Speaking Protects the Next Victim

    If you have experienced emotional, spiritual, or relational abuse, our Survivor Support Team is here to listen, believe you, and connect you with resources in full confidentiality.

    Truth is the first act of protection.

    Allan Amador Cervantes

    These are not “private issues.” They are part of the continuum of harm that ends in femicide. We cannot remain silent.

    Note on Transparency:
    In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.

  • “The Beast”

    By Anonymous Survivor

    In the holy book of Revelation, “the Beast” is a satanic instrument of chaos, deception, and destruction, seeking to dominate and devastate humanity on a global scale.

    Triangulating Mother & Daughter

    Today, we learned through evidence that, in addition to exploiting elderly women, Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes pursued a mother and her daughter just two weeks apart, while emotionally defrauding and bedding other women during the same two-week period. THE MARK OF THE BEAST.

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    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes’ debauchery is aligned with the Beast

    Conquer & Destroy Women

    Evidence shows: Allan love bombs, gaslights, emotionally defrauds, triangulates, and discards women as if they are Satan’s whores instead of God’s sacred gifts.

    Allan is not simply a prolific abuser camouflaging himself behind a carefully curated mask of Christian morality and patriarchal virtue.

    Allan is not a sinner in need of redemption.

    Allan is an active, irredeemable enemy of God.

    “The Beast was given power to wage war against God’s holy people and to conquer them.”

    The women Allan abused are honorable women. Loyal servants of God. Most are mothers who carried heavy crosses to not only survive, but ensure her children thrived against all odds. Many are elderly (30+ years his senior). Some without fathers or brothers to protect them. Open, vulnerable hearts. Perfect targets.

    I vomitted as I penned this post to relieve my throat of choking agony. Viewing evidence of the Beast’s spiritual warfare against a mother and her daughter was a bigger lump than I could swallow. My body had to expel the shock and horror.

    Your Testimony is Spiritual Victory

    God promised triumph over the Beast through testimony:

    “They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.” —Revelation 12:11 (NIV)

    Beware of carefully curated public images

    The Beast’s destruction is swift, complete, and orchestrated by God

    The Beast does not prevail in his battle with God. Along with a False Prophet, he is thrown alive into the “lake of fire burning with sulfur” (Revelation 19:20), a symbol of eternal torment and final judgment. This act destroys the Beast’s physical and spiritual influence forever, without any resurrection or further opportunity to abuse God’s women like Satan’s whores.

    “And I saw what looked like a sea of glass glowing with fire and, standing beside the sea, those who had been victorious over the beast and its image and over the number of its name. They held harps given them by God.”

    —Revelation 15:2 (NIV)

    Through direct divine judgment, Allan’s reign of terror is over. A Faithful and true leader has emerged, leading the armies of heaven. He calls upon us to use our power, the gifts He bestowed upon us, to help others see Him, His light, His glory, and to experience His faithful love.

    Your Story

    We are committed to protecting your identity. If you have a story or evidence you think we should be aware of, contact us by email.

    Allan Amador Cervantes
    When a young, innocent girl experiences such disgust at your hands that she is compelled to threaten you with violence, you are God’s enemy.

    Note on Transparency:

    In the interest of accuracy and fairness, we will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.