Esta mañana me desperté con pesadillas sobre lo que Allan Alexander Amador Crevantes me hizo durante años. Mentiras, manipulación psicológica, abusos sexuales, traición a mi confianza, descubrir que es un gigoló, un embaucador, un narcisista. – Superviviente del abuso de Allan
The Anatomy of Weaponized Love
Weaponized love is not gender-specific, though it often follows patriarchal scripts.
It operates by exploiting our most sacred human need: to belong.
It sounds like this (actual text messages from Allan in 2024):
The messages all look like a normal love affair, right?
The author, Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes, was intimately involved with another woman at the time he sent these messages. Additionally, at this time, he was leading a third elderly woman to believe she was his love interest. And also inviting two other elderly woman on dates.
Weaponized attachment mirrors narcissistic abuse cycles (idealize-devalue-discard).
This is why it is important to view domestic violence in context. As stand alone messages, there is no alarm in an established trusting relationship. In context, we see a psychopathology and serious harm to the target.
The next step follows the typical abuse cycle and involves devaluation and discard. See Pattern Evidence & Case Study for live example.
Men’s sexual violence against women often stems from a fragile masculine identity that equates dominance with worth. When a man feels powerless in broader life—economically, socially, or emotionally—he may compulsively assert control over a woman via abuse tactics to reclaim the sensation of potency. Rape becomes a desperate ritual to prove “I am not the one who can be penetrated, violated, or reduced”; in other words, the terror of being dominated himself is displaced onto her. The erect phallus weaponizes the very vulnerability he refuses to feel.
This dynamic reveals a hidden homoerotic panic at the core of patriarchal violence: the male perpetrator unconsciously fears that without absolute supremacy over women, he risks occupying the “feminized” position of the dominated. Sexual violation is therefore less about desire for the woman than about terror of becoming her—of being entered, owned, or erased. By violating her boundaries, he symbolically castrates his own dread of submission, yet the act only deepens the cycle of shame and compensatory brutality. True liberation for men lies not in dominating others, but in tolerating the vulnerability that dominance was meant to obliterate.
Sigmund Freud’s psychoanalytic framework links sexual violence to unresolved Oedipal conflicts and primal aggression. In Totem and Taboo (1913), he posits that patriarchal societies originate from sons’ murderous rivalry with the father, culminating in guilt-driven totemism. Applied to rape, the perpetrator reenacts this parricide symbolically: violating a woman displaces castrating anxiety onto her, warding off the father’s imagined retribution.
Men drawn to female domination—embodied in maternal archetypes—bear scars from enforced stoicism: “man up” edicts, assuming the absent father’s protector role, and filling voids from his sexual or literal disappearance. They crave domination because vulnerability was forbidden; strength became their cage.
Gendered violence, long a patriarchal cudgel, inverts into radical subversion when power imbalances—income, wealth, age, opportunity—tilt decisively toward the dominatrix.
She is in control now, not him.
Idealization and devaluation form the oscillating core of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), manifesting as “splitting”—a primitive defense where the other is all-good or all-bad. In NPD, idealization serves self-aggrandizement: the partner is “love-bombed” with excessive praise and mirroring to secure narcissistic supply, creating an addictive pedestal. The narcissist flips from intense expressions of love to devaluation, weaponizing contempt, silence, and attachment to gain superiority, as these tactics inherently destabilize his victim by causing oxytocin and dopamine withdrawal symptoms, fostering dependency.
Devaluation erupts abruptly: ghosting enforces erasure, lying distorts reality (gaslighting). In NPD, the pivot often stems from narcissistic injury.
This swing is not mere moodiness but a structural fracture in self-cohesion. Narcissist then point to the victim as “unstable” and assert himself as the more stable, knowing partner. Unbeknownst to most narcississt, however, is that power and control experts transparently understand this play and it is well documented in scholarly archives.
Strategically, recognize the pattern early: love-bombing lacks mutuality, devaluation lacks proportionality.
Protagonist’s name changed for her safety
During the Covid pandemic, Sophie—a divorced mother with disabilities, 16 years older than Allan—moved from California to La Paz. She sought relief from lockdowns, rehabilitation through swimming the Sea of Cortez, and opportunities to volunteer for social causes.
Facebook suggested Allan as a connection. His public profile presented him as a university rector and community figure. Sophie reached out, believing he could direct her toward volunteer opportunities. From the beginning, her intention was clear: service to the community, not romance.
But Allan’s response was not professional. By their second meeting, he invaded her personal space, he followed her home without consent, and he lied about where he lived. Sophie rejected him, but Allan pressed forward, promising introductions to volunteer opportunities. Soon he was swimming beside her, camping with her, dining with her.
For nine months, Allan concealed the truth about his living situation. He claimed to own a house being remodeled, managed by his brother, Christopher. In reality, he owns no property and he lives in his mother’s attic. When exposed, he said Sophie could not visit him at his mother’s house because his mother dislikes visitors. Witnesses confirm those excuses are false. Years later, having forgotten his lie, Allan also inadvertently confirmed this is false.
The deception served a purpose: to mask his poverty and to position Sophie’s luxury penthouse as a free lover’s pad.
This pattern continued. Allan feigned wealth, spoke of his substantial savings and investments, but let Sophie pay for dinners, hotels, and travel. When inside her penthouse overlooking the Mogote, he acted like a kept man—giving orders to staff, sweeping floors, lingering on the sofa, and “forgetting” personal items when he left so he would have to return. He offered love without action, commitment without cost. Un gigoló.
The financial imbalance grew clearer when Allan visited Sophie in California. He spoke of building a life together but expected her to fund it. He promised love and fidelity. Instead, he cultivated simultaneous relationships with other women, concealing them through lies: “I lost my phone,” “I am busy with politics,” “there’s no reception in Todos Santos,” “Kenno is sick.” He disappeared for weekends and holidays using his family as alibis while reassuring Sophie of his love.
When Sophie asked him before moving permanently to La Paz—risking her career, finances, and leaving family behind—he swore:
“I absolutely want you here with me.”
She drove a thousand miles across the desert on that promise, investing thousands of dollars, only to arrive to chaos. Allan was already entangled with Jody Waterman, conducting a public, sexually charged online relationship. He was secretly pursuing Pamela Sue Martin in Todos Santos and Idaho. And he was chasing pussy of all ages and nationalities, including a minor, all while keeping Sophie as his sexual doormat and financial safety net.
Suddenly, in summer 2023, Allan claimed his “rich cousin in Washington” had paid his first class expenses to Washington to help his cousin’s child.
I want to reiterate: Allan used not just this child in his lies, but also his minor nephews on other occasions.
In reality, this “rich cousin” was Pamela Sue Martin, thirty years his senior. Allan raved about her wealth and how “he” was paying for everything: dinners, flights, and all other travel expenses. The elaborate lie revealed the indisputable Mexican-gigolo strategy:
Allan targets older, wealthier women, using deceit to gain sexual access and financial benefits.
Allan’s deceit-for-sex career carries a critical legal implication: Idaho’s rape laws provide for prosectution for Artifice, Pretense, or Concealment and California law provides similar protections.
Family Complicity
Allan did not act alone. His family enables him. His mother knew he was traveling to various US states to spend time with different wealthy women old enough to be his mother.
Maria Elena cannot claim ignorance of his motives. Allan’s own words implicate his brother Christopher and sister-in-law Fernanda, who chauffeured him to airports. Allan further confided that Fernanda coached him on how to build trust and intimacy with these women.
The deception was not hidden from family; it was facilitated.
Family must consider their their own position, their own family standing, and draw a clear line between Allan’s disgrace and their households:
Allan lied for sex. He lied for money. He lied when truth would have served him better.
The lies multiplied beyond what one interview can contain. Sophie became ill under the weight of Allan’s chaos. She told him she was breaking down. Instead of easing the harm, Allan escalated it—feigning empathy while deepening betrayal. She left La Paz six months later, burdened with all the costs of migration, relocation, and remigration, while Allan continued to whisper promises: “I love you more than you know. I am coming soon to be with you. Kenno is sick.”
Kenno, Allan’s brother, was indeed sick. But Allan’s cruelty had nothing to do with that reality. Kenno was simply another alibi to cloak Allan’s relationships with other women.
In the end, Sophie received a single message that opened the floodgates of truth.
The pattern is undeniable: Allan lied for sex, lied for money, lied when truth would have served him better. His deceit is not incidental—it is pathological.
And his family stands by him, complicit in the harm.
In the below image, a young lady rightfully feels compelled to threaten Allan with violence for his ongoing inappropriate contact with her…three months after he told her mother he loved her…in a text message…one day after Allan was photographed in bed with Sophie.
Having trouble keeping track of Allan’s poor personal boundaries? There’s plenty more to see if you care to vomit.
“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” Ephesians 4:25 (NIV)
More abuser tactics for the narcissistic:
When one supply source threatens exposure, run to the other supply source and secure it.
She is the most vulnerable to the exact deception pattern outlined in Allan’s psychological profile.
Allan is actively bonding tighter to prevent losing her. She is in the jurisdiction where his deceptive sexual behavior is criminal. Silence protects him, not her.
He will repeat the same abuse cycle until she learns the truth and/or she is harmed.
“Patterns suggest efforts calculated to maintain influence, risking destabilization of romantic partners.”
Beware of the Mexican Gigalo
By Guest Author & Survivor
The first time someone told me that Allan is a liar, a user, and an abuser of women, I was incensed. Outraged! Furious.
I responded to that woman with scathing rebuke.
The Second Time
The second time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I was angry. I denied it. It couldn’t be true. He is so charming and polite.
The Third Time
The third time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I paused. I asked Allan about it. The idea was ridiculous, he said. “She’s a jealous woman, she’s crazy,” he told me.
The Fourth Time
The fourth time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I investigated. I was deeply concerned by the evidence I found. I confronted him. He scoffed. I will never forget that smirk on his face.
The Fifth Time
The fifth time someone told me that Allan was abusing women, I investigated again. Allan was lying to me.
The Reign of Hell Began
I confronted him. He lied. I confronted him again. He lied again. I confronted him again. He created total destruction and chaos while simultaneously kissing me, telling me he loved me, and making love to me.
I Left Him
He pursued me again. Still avoiding the truth.
I left him again.
I Forgave Him
I should not have.
I wasn’t the only one he was lying to.
I wasn’t special. I wasn’t loved. This wasn’t the “Once in a Lifetime Love” we whispered about.
I was someone he was using because he needed admiration and attention. A ticket to the USA. That’s all.
Allan Sexually Violated Me.
The lies. The lies were emotional fraud.
But bringing someone else’s sexual energies into my bed, into my womb. Without my permission. He desecrated me.
I was being used.
That’s what I live with.
Then One Day He Disappeared
No explanation.
Four Years
Four years of abuse cycles:
Shock. Chaos. Confusion.
Letter Received
Your boyfriend is sleeping with another woman. Here’s proof.
I could have Handled the Truth
“I don’t love you, I don’t want to be with you” would have been good enough for me. I could have walked away years sooner with dignity. With my sacred womb in tact.
Living with Anger
Now. I am angry at myself for overlooking the obvious.
Angry at myself for forgiving him.
Angry at myself for trusting his words when he said, “I want you here with me.”
Angry at myself for not realizing it was all about the money and the USA. It wasn’t about me.
I make no apologies for shining light on this truth.
I Hope No One Else Gets Hurt
His public persona is a fascinating study in the art of deception.
People want to believe what they see.
Thank You God
I’m deeply grateful for your gifts.
Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, We will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.
By Anonymous Survivor
In the holy book of Revelation, “the Beast” is a satanic instrument of chaos, deception, and destruction, seeking to dominate and devastate humanity on a global scale.
La Paz, BCS Mexico
Today, we learned through evidence that, in addition to exploiting elderly women, Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes pursued a mother and her daughter just two weeks apart, while emotionally defrauding and bedding other women during the same two-week period. THE MARK OF THE BEAST.
Evidence shows: Allan love bombs, gaslights, emotionally defrauds, triangulates, and discards women as if they are Satan’s whores instead of God’s sacred gifts.
Allan is not simply a prolific abuser camouflaging himself behind a carefully curated mask of Christian morality and patriarchal virtue.
Allan is not a sinner in need of redemption.
Allan is an active, irredeemable enemy of God.
“The Beast was given power to wage war against God’s holy people and to conquer them.”
Revelation 13:7 (NIV)
The women Allan abused are honorable women. Loyal servants of God. Most are mothers who carried heavy crosses to not only survive, but ensure her children thrived against all odds. Many are elderly (30+ years his senior). Some without fathers or brothers to protect them. Open, vulnerable hearts. Perfect targets.
I vomitted as I penned this post to relieve my throat of choking agony. Viewing evidence of the Beast’s spiritual warfare against a mother and her daughter was a bigger lump than I could swallow. My body had to expel the shock and horror.
God promised triumph over the Beast through testimony:
“They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.” —Revelation 12:11 (NIV)
The Beast does not prevail in his battle with God. Along with a False Prophet, he is thrown alive into the “lake of fire burning with sulfur” (Revelation 19:20), a symbol of eternal torment and final judgment. This act destroys the Beast’s physical and spiritual influence forever, without any resurrection or further opportunity to abuse God’s women like Satan’s whores.
“And I saw what looked like a sea of glass glowing with fire and, standing beside the sea, those who had been victorious over the beast and its image and over the number of its name. They held harps given them by God.”
—Revelation 15:2 (NIV)
Through direct divine judgment, Allan’s reign of terror is over. A Faithful and true leader has emerged, leading the armies of heaven. He calls upon us to use our power, the gifts He bestowed upon us, to help others see Him, His light, His glory, and to experience His faithful love.
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Note on Transparency:
In the interest of accuracy and fairness, we will publish any credible counter-narrative or evidence Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes wishes to provide in response to the information on this site. As of the date of this publication, he has not requested removal or correction of any content.