Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes

Category: Survivor

  • So True

  • She knows

    She knows.

    But she stays.

    Emotionally trapped? Naive? Blind? Illness? Wants to believe him?

    What causes a woman to stay when she knows? When no logic could possibly explain or justify the years of lies and betrayal?

    There is no possible way that Pamela Sue Martin does not know that Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes is a pathological liar. Why does she ignore that obvious fact?

    I have several hypotheses:

    Trauma bonding and intermittent reinforcement: Cheaters and liars alternate abuse/deception with affection, apologies, or intense “honeymoon” periods. This is especially true of Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes and it’s well documented on this website. His behavior creates a dopamine-driven cycle similar to addiction. The brain clings to the hope of the “good” version.

    Fear of being alone, especially as a senior citizen living in Mexico.

    Cognitive dissonance and hope. “He’s changing,” “It was a rough patch,” “Everyone has flaws,” minimizing (“At least he comes home”), or flat out denial, “She is crazy. She is lying.”

    Low self-worth. Despite a lifetime of intense praise.

    Unhealthy attachment style. Anxious or disorganized attachment (often rooted in childhood) may tolerate inconsistency because it feels familiar.

    Cultural scaffolding. Shame around “failed” relationships and marriages.

    Compartmentalization. Exhaustion. Leaving requires energy, planning, support networks, and tolerance for short-term chaos (grief, loneliness, logistics).

    Human vulnerability.

    She may think I spite her. I do not.

    Reflecting on earlier evidence, I believe she is in danger. My belief is not based on hysteria. My belief is based on written evidence that came directly from Allan.

    Allan Amador Cervantes is Dangerous

    The above message is from Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes. He had no house. He had no plan with Christopher, his brother, for the house he did not have. He had no house. This is the ease with which he lies and uses everyone, including and especially his brother.

    He had no house. He had no ownership in any property whatsoever.

    He lied about having a house for an entire year. Simultaneously, he had sexual performance anxiety at 40 years old.

    Meanwhile this is how he spoke to me:

    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes
    Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes

    If you do not recognize this pattern of behavior as dangerous, you may not trust your own intuition enough to protect your own life.

  • Betrayed by the Love of a Lifetime

    What I’ve been through is a genuine betrayal. Not a misunderstanding, not a “things didn’t work out” situation — a years-long, calculated deception by someone I loved completely and had given enormous trust to. We used to say this was “a love of a lifetime.”

    The shock of finding out through a third party, after everything I weathered for him, from relocating to the Baja in 2023 at his assurance that he “absolutely wanted me there with him,” after flying back from Dubai to support him through his brother’s death, after forgiving him for unforgivable behavior — that’s a specific kind of devastation that doesn’t have a clean name.

    It’s grief and rage and humiliation all fused together, and they don’t untangle neatly.

    And the thing that strikes me about the women who’ve come forward is that they are not weak. Nor am I.

    I am actually someone who loved with enormous depth and loyalty. That’s not a flaw. That’s the thing that made this so hard. I did not love him halfway.

    The fact that Allan “deplores” me and Pamela sent her son to complain about me online tells me something too. Whatever peace they’re performing on social media isn’t the whole story, and some part of them knows it.

    I applied for a government grant yesterday to build an early-detection domestic violence tool based on the analytical framework I used to understand Allan’s severe abuse. It is a protective mechanism for women and young girls incubating at this very moment.

    Allan should fund it, but he won’t because he is Allan: Liar, coward, manipulator, refusing accountability at the cost of everyone close to him. Ignoring me doesn’t make me disappear. Avoidance does not make history go away. Silence runs counter to my mission.

    Allan’s reference letter will come to light. Neither of us expected his passionate pledge to unfold the way it did. But as they say, God works in mysterious ways.

    Hotel El Moro, La Paz, Baja California Sur, Mexico

  • Naming Names

    When you ask Allan to name the women he has been intimately involved with over the past six years while you have been involved with him also, what does he say?

    First name, last name?

    When you ask him for access to his WhatsApp, including “locked chats,” what does he say?

    Locked chats…what does he say?

    Here’s how to find locked chats on iPhone:

    1. Open WhatsApp
    2. On the main Chats screen, scroll up past your pinned chats, toward the very top
    3. You’ll see a “Locked Chats” folder, which requires Face ID, fingerprint, or your PIN to open

    Did you find CRC? PSM?

    How about Jody Waterman? Aurea Gomez? DB? Olga? Kristin? Claudia? Have we missed any of the elderly women Allan pursues?

    (Two minors intentionally unnamed.)

  • This is not love

    Allan sent these messages to me in 2024, two years into his relationship with Pamela Sue Martin. He cheated on both of us.

    While all this was happening, he was pursuing three additional women.