She knows.

But she stays.

Emotionally trapped? Naive? Blind? Illness? Wants to believe him?

What causes a woman to stay when she knows? When no logic could possibly explain or justify the years of lies and betrayal?

There is no possible way that Pamela Sue Martin does not know that Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes is a pathological liar. Why does she ignore that obvious fact?

I have several hypotheses:

Trauma bonding and intermittent reinforcement: Cheaters and liars alternate abuse/deception with affection, apologies, or intense “honeymoon” periods. This is especially true of Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes and it’s well documented on this website. His behavior creates a dopamine-driven cycle similar to addiction. The brain clings to the hope of the “good” version.

Fear of being alone, especially as a senior citizen living in Mexico.

Cognitive dissonance and hope. “He’s changing,” “It was a rough patch,” “Everyone has flaws,” minimizing (“At least he comes home”), or flat out denial, “She is crazy. She is lying.”

Low self-worth. Despite a lifetime of intense praise.

Unhealthy attachment style. Anxious or disorganized attachment (often rooted in childhood) may tolerate inconsistency because it feels familiar.

Cultural scaffolding. Shame around “failed” relationships and marriages.

Compartmentalization. Exhaustion. Leaving requires energy, planning, support networks, and tolerance for short-term chaos (grief, loneliness, logistics).

Human vulnerability.

She may think I spite her. I do not.

Reflecting on earlier evidence, I believe she is in danger. My belief is not based on hysteria. My belief is based on written evidence that came directly from Allan.

Allan Amador Cervantes is Dangerous

The above message is from Allan Alexander Amador Cervantes. He had no house. He had no plan with Christopher, his brother, for the house he did not have. He had no house. This is the ease with which he lies and uses everyone, including and especially his brother.

He had no house. He had no ownership in any property whatsoever.

He lied about having a house for an entire year. Simultaneously, he had sexual performance anxiety at 40 years old.

Meanwhile this is how he spoke to me:

If you do not recognize this pattern of behavior as dangerous, you may not trust your own intuition enough to protect your own life.